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10-08-2008, 11:07 PM
|  | Registered Member | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada
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| | Becoming Friends With Him How do you become friends with a guy that is shy and protective?
My friend tried him out.
Her : Hi.
Him - *waves* walks away.
That's it.
How can I get him to talk more to me and be friends.
Honestly he doesn't know me.
Somehow, he's really close with this girl, they always go to each others house, most of the time. But he only thinks of her as a cousin and she likes some other guy... I wonder how she did it. | 
10-08-2008, 11:52 PM
|  | BIG AND HORNY | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Into the Pandemonium
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| | | Done it before.. so not worth it. They're shy and protective because they are emotionally retarded sadly. I used to be intrigued by guys like that and it took a few years of shite to realise this.
__________________ Juices like wine, like the blood in the sands. | 
10-09-2008, 12:58 PM
|  | Blessed are the forgetful | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New York
Posts: 1,559
| | | Every guy I've dated is like this, and I am good at this, really good at this....no guy that I ever had my eye on and really tried for I didn't get. I don't know exactly how to explain it...I'll try to...
One...maybe I was fortunate to have met his friend who was eccentric and bouncy...but I got the boy's screen name through him and instantly became friends...you just have to flaunt your pros basically, open up to him about your life, and usually in return they feel the same, especially if they see you're comfortable with talking about your personal life.
Another...I knew him 3 years before I talked to him, found his myspace page years later, saw that we had things in common, messaged him one day as a reply to his thread after adding him...and eventually he asked for me SN.....he never truly opened up, even when we were dating but as long as I showed empathy and pretended I was confident I seemed attractive....Bringing out a sense of confidence even if you don't have any is probably the best thing.
My boyfriend now...well. I was his lab partner years ago....through a friend of mine he started hanging out with me and my guy friends...still quiet...I approached him, and did basically what I did with the first guy...and he eventually opened up to me, more than anyone....you just have to have your guard down first...and don't rush into anything, sometimes it takes time. I'd say for many shy guys it's easier for them to talk when it's not in person and then eventually when they're comfortable and feel close to you then they will be more comfortable in person. I was his best friend before we went out, we established a great relationship...he's definetely not as quiet as he used to be.
Well I tried to the best of my ability...if you have any questions, I may be able to further help. Sorry if I wasn't clear enough. | 
10-09-2008, 10:40 PM
|  | Registered Member | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada
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| | | Impossible? The thing is I have NOTHING of him. Meaning...
I don't know any of his friends.
His e-mail.
Nothing.
I really want to just be friends, good friends, eventually be together. | 
10-09-2008, 10:43 PM
|  | Registered Member | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada
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| | | Thanks. Quote:
Originally Posted by CuntCake Every guy I've dated is like this, and I am good at this, really good at this....no guy that I ever had my eye on and really tried for I didn't get. I don't know exactly how to explain it...I'll try to...
One...maybe I was fortunate to have met his friend who was eccentric and bouncy...but I got the boy's screen name through him and instantly became friends...you just have to flaunt your pros basically, open up to him about your life, and usually in return they feel the same, especially if they see you're comfortable with talking about your personal life.
Another...I knew him 3 years before I talked to him, found his myspace page years later, saw that we had things in common, messaged him one day as a reply to his thread after adding him...and eventually he asked for me SN.....he never truly opened up, even when we were dating but as long as I showed empathy and pretended I was confident I seemed attractive....Bringing out a sense of confidence even if you don't have any is probably the best thing.
My boyfriend now...well. I was his lab partner years ago....through a friend of mine he started hanging out with me and my guy friends...still quiet...I approached him, and did basically what I did with the first guy...and he eventually opened up to me, more than anyone....you just have to have your guard down first...and don't rush into anything, sometimes it takes time. I'd say for many shy guys it's easier for them to talk when it's not in person and then eventually when they're comfortable and feel close to you then they will be more comfortable in person. I was his best friend before we went out, we established a great relationship...he's definetely not as quiet as he used to be.
Well I tried to the best of my ability...if you have any questions, I may be able to further help. Sorry if I wasn't clear enough. |
The guy I want to be friends with is shy and protective right, so am I.
I only have 2 friends that I don't even talk to anymore.
So we can say I have 0 friends.
Something of him makes me want to be with him.
He's going to graduate in 09. So I gotta be quick...
I'm shy, so I don't want to talk. Yet. Tell we're friends some other way.
Like me bumpin' into him, on purpose. And ask if he's okay, and eventually grow up to that.
Is there another way other then the bump. | 
10-10-2008, 11:42 AM
|  | Blessed are the forgetful | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New York
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| | | It's really hard when you can't show a sense of confidence....bumping into someone won't get them to become friends with you. Men don't think like woman. They just take it as getting bumped into.
If you really want to make something happen, you have to stand up to your fears, and break away from being shy. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes | Linear Mode |
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