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10-08-2008, 01:34 PM
|  | Registered Member | | Join Date: Jul 2007
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| | | He says he needs space...yet he keeps calling and writing
My boyfriend of 3 years said he needs space....he said this after a long period of arguing and confusion over my big time jealousy issues and total clinginess. Now I don't feel he is trying to break up with me as since telling me he needs a break 3 days ago has sent me at least 5 emails, and we have spoken on the phone (him being the one who called) at least 3 times a day. So I am a bit confused. I THINK he is trying to say I need to stop my compulsive need to be around him 24 hours a day and just back up a bit. What I need to know is HOW do I do this? I DO obsess all the time about what he is doing, etc and am starting to truly believe I have forgotten about me- that I live through him. For the record I have toned down my calling, emailing, etc a ton to show him I can let him breath. Any advice or tips on how to handle this situation is greatly appreciated. |
10-08-2008, 02:09 PM
|  | laughingandgaylikeaclown? | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: the big top
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| | | god, just DO IT? stop being so crackers? he obviously loves you and wants to be with you just not mental you?
go get threapy or something?
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10-08-2008, 02:38 PM
|  | walking the cow | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: pollen lane
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Originally Posted by miss_scarlet  god, just DO IT? stop being so crackers? he obviously loves you and wants to be with you just not mental you?
go get threapy or something? | lol, high five
not that being mental is a bad thing, kinda like it?
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10-08-2008, 02:40 PM
|  | crippling disabilities. | | Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: where dreams come to die.
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| | | yeah you're really being mental. and take it from someone who lost their 'one' (imo) because of mentalness, it's really ass to get over.
so just do it.
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10-08-2008, 02:44 PM
| | Anxious | | Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: South of England
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| | | It's normal to develop attachment to your partner.
If you find a way to overcome obsessing over them, let me know lol, I could do with some of that. |
10-08-2008, 03:31 PM
|  | < :3 )~~~ | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Canafuckinda
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Originally Posted by miss_scarlet god, just DO IT? stop being so crackers? he obviously loves you and wants to be with you just not mental you?
go get threapy or something? | I couldn't agree more 
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10-08-2008, 03:39 PM
|  | NEENJA | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: nyc 4 eva
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Originally Posted by sugar8 My boyfriend of 3 years said he needs space....he said this after a long period of arguing and confusion over my big time jealousy issues and total clinginess. Now I don't feel he is trying to break up with me as since telling me he needs a break 3 days ago has sent me at least 5 emails, and we have spoken on the phone (him being the one who called) at least 3 times a day. So I am a bit confused. I THINK he is trying to say I need to stop my compulsive need to be around him 24 hours a day and just back up a bit. What I need to know is HOW do I do this? I DO obsess all the time about what he is doing, etc and am starting to truly believe I have forgotten about me- that I live through him. For the record I have toned down my calling, emailing, etc a ton to show him I can let him breath. Any advice or tips on how to handle this situation is greatly appreciated. | make a life of your own without him. your own group of friends, your own hangout nights and places etc. you dont need to totally forget about him, just dont live FOR him or THRU him. live your own life WITH him.
clear?
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Originally Posted by dotty wokker and laugh about it all you want. you wont be laughing when my friends dos the fuck out of your hard drive. | |
10-08-2008, 05:20 PM
|  | Nazi punks fuck off! | | Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Bucharest, Romania
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| | | We always want what we don't have. So if you're strong enough to not be so available to him you're on the right path.
I should listen to my own advice sometimes. I know it's hard. But it's worth it. |
10-08-2008, 11:13 PM
|  | Registered Member | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada
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| | | Discuss it!
Have you ever told him what he was doing?
Like how he's telling you he needs space and the next thing you know he's calling and texting you. Let him know and that you're confused. |
10-08-2008, 11:25 PM
| | crippling disabilities. | | Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: where dreams come to die.
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Originally Posted by Pain Of Love Have you ever told him what he was doing?
Like how he's telling you he needs space and the next thing you know he's calling and texting you. Let him know and that you're confused. | don't follow this advice.
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10-08-2008, 11:53 PM
|  | BIG AND HORNY | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Into the Pandemonium
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| | | I'd personally start ignoring his calls and not replying to his emails.
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10-09-2008, 12:08 PM
| | Anxious | | Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: South of England
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Originally Posted by Ronette I'd personally start ignoring his calls and not replying to his emails. | This is the girly way. This is the way of establishing yourself as a person of high value who cannot be toyed or fucked around with. If he has the actual brain power he'll come back to you and talk to you properly. Otherwise move on. |
10-10-2008, 07:16 AM
|  | your typical hot chick | | Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: niami
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| | he sounds insecure. try talking about a bigger committment. maybe hes just afraid youll hurt im. hope that helps.... | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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