This is my first post. I only came on here cause one of my gf's comes here all the time, but i always get her to post you know. silly i know. i've been in a rltnship with this guy for about 6 mnth now and i really really like him but i know that we have things going on our life taht might mean we split up later. he works away sometimes and he used to be busy alot but being more inot each other now we've got a good thing going on and i really really do like him. i know he likes me. well, he loves me. i'm not sure if i am ready to say "love" to him yet, but i do feel it. i'm just abit scared is all. of the commitment. if i know we are going to both be going places and doing other things, why should i carry on now. i dont want him to change his plans and me mine but its not going to be easy to make it work and i dont want to get hurt, or hurt him. it's really starting to worry me now. hes so nice with me and its clear he really loves me. but i think it might mean we go seperate ways later for his work and my plans...then should i just end it now to save the pain? maybe it will change? i just dont know what to do and its making me cry lots as i love him.

I think you should quit worrying about the "what if's" and live in the moment. If everybody always worried about what *might* happen in the future, then no one would ever be in any relationships. I say just enjoy it while you have it, make the best of the situation, and if it all falls apart at least it will be a learning experience for you and hopefully a positive memory to look back on.

^^ What they said - Don't play "what if".

If you really care for him, will it be any less painful if you end it now?
I assume you'll just be miserable longer?

Why would you end it, yeah, just because something *might* go wrong later on?

Every relationship ends. Either you break up or one of you will die before the other. Just fucking go for it, what's there to lose?

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