Why, WHY, in the name of god, is there such an emphasis on relationships and looooove in this damn society?

I mean, fucking everywhere I go people are like "do you have a boyfriend????" "nooooooo????ooooooh, why????? you must be a lesbanim!".
What the hell? And almost EVERYONE I know (except the people I actually like) has a boyfriend or girlfriend and is completely dependent of them, and so many people are just scared of being alone because, oooh, they might actually be confronted with their own thoughts, fears, etc.... It's like they all don't have any sort of personality so they need that 2nd person so "complete" them.

And it's not like I don't want a boyfriend. But if I don't meet anyone even remotely interesting, then should I just go for some random dude, just so I could have a boyfriend or what?
It's ridiculous.

Please rant with me.

i've witnessed this phenonemon aswell, and it is pissing me off/making me sad for people like that. depending on the mood i am in.

also, what the fuck with asking you whether you are a lesbian? i know more hetero singles than lesbian singles as a matter of fact.

and good on you for waiting for someone to come around that you actually like.
nothing is worse than those compromise relationships, because usually the people who have them are not completely happy (umm of course) and constantly have relationship problems and whine and bitch about them...

i need to stop before i rant even more. what the fuck is wrong with people?

You seem rather young and naive, innocent in fact. Questioning social etiquette is something a college student does on a regular basis out of sheer frustration of the idiocy of the world around them. "Make sense!" they shout at a world that never listens.

My opinion on the subject is that people ask if you are in a relationship because they're so fucked for conversation starters that's all what comes to mind. It's just small talk, don't shit one over small talk ffs...

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silvine, quite hitting on girls the moment you realise they're single

cause thats how you make babies. and thats why we are on earth, apparently?

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I agree with Sarah.

& Silvine, you make a point, but that doesn't explain all of what Sarah's was getting at. It doesn't all the girls I know that can't be single for more than 5 minutes. I swear some of these girls will have a bf that'll last them 2 weeks, they'll break up, she'll 'mourn' for a day, and then she's on to the next one. It's disgusting that these girls are incapable of being single. I don't know why, but it seems like they're almost scared of it. They need someone in their life to "depend" on..

And then there are girls that, once they get into a relationship, they throw themselves head long into it, and forget that there is anyone else in the world than their boyfriend. "Love", right?
This happens to most of the girls I know. I've decided to stop relying on them, cause they don't have a soul till they have a boyfriend, srsly.

I think it's really sad, that instead of spending time bettering yrself, doing things you like doing, etc. girls would rather please their guy, constantly get laid, be around their boyfriend 24/7, NEVER be without their boyfriend, etc. And yeah, I understand there's that "honeymoon period" but for some girls it never ends, it's their life.
It's sad.

Sarah basically said it all.. right on about everything. <3

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Once you become older these things are much less noticeable.

I know what you mean Sara.

People think I'm some kind of freak because I haven't been in a relationship for a while.

Like, at this time last year I saw kind of interested in this guy and vice versa and I found out a month or so ago that my relationship dependent friend was saying that I should go for it, because I need it. Excuse me, I don't need anyone. My friend hadn't even met this guy, and he ended up being slightly insane.

The single life does me well.

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i hear you, sister! i met someone online, almost went out with them untill they said they may vote for mc cain.

if i really hated being single, i wouldn't be. i'd join a dating service, or sierra club hiking for singles, ect. i haven't done that.

i may join a dating service, or go on craig's list. for someone to go out with, that has a car. there are so many weirdos, though.

my last b/f was so bad, i'm a pretty hesitant to get involved with some one. i've been dating, had some disasters, but haven't given up.

it's a personal question, about being single. as silvine said, people don't know any better. i get asked my age, who i live with, why don't i have children, ect. i hate it!!

I couldn't have said it better. All of this.

I don't think it's running or being afraid of being alone. love lets you explore someone else's whole being. it's like travelling for the soul. you can't know yourself unless you've really tried to know someone else.

/incredibly soppy message from loved up idiot

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no, really, it's not small talk. I'm talking about people who know me quite well and have known me for a while and they really, honestly wonder why I am single. It's like they can't get their mind wrapped around that fact. Not because I'm so great, HA (unfortunately ), but because all of them and everyone around them has been in long term relationship since they were 15....and believe me, that doesn't seem to have had any positive effects, so it's not like I'm jealous.

I'm bitter though. I'll give you that. And well, I don't appreciate you calling me naive and "rather young". I've been told many many times that i am mature, and I think the fact that I am my own person and am strong enough in my character/personality to not constantly need to have my existence validated by someone else shows that.

The problem is that I am confident in my being single, but the fact that everyone keeps asking me whether I have a boyfriend is not very good for my self-esteem. When people act like it's very weird to be single you start feeling incredibly self-conscious and at times I have thought that something is incredibly wrong with my and my sense of self worth plummets due to this. I then remind myself that they are idiots, and it's fine again. But it has been going on for so long that it's really having an impact on me and I am, at 21, actually wondering whether I will become a spinster, which is just all kinds of messed up.

ugh...I hear you. I have only had short relationships any way...like a max of 2 months...TOPS. Because I just could not deal with it. These guys would all be so clingy that I was just fed up after a couple of weeks and dumped them. And I think this just goes to show that I have not met any right person for me yet. If they were right it would've lasted and I would not have been annoyed with them so early on in a relationship.

I just think it's harder for people with stronger personalities (don't want to offend anyone here though!), because they know very well what they want and don't NEED a partner. I think often people are together just because...because they need to be with someone cause what would they do otherwise? They don't seem to really give it any thought.


God. I have so much frustration on this subject. I guess I am bitter in a way, but it's only because people's questions have made me so.

I'm sorry but I completely disagree. As I said before, I think many people have a partner and want to spend every free second with them because they can't be alone, just with themselves.
I think you get to know yourself through interaction with others, but also mainly by spending time by yourself, by learning to be alone. I just feel like there are many situations in life where you are completely by yourself and you need to be able to deal with that.
We all come into this world by ourselves and we will leave it that way.

i think my grandma thought i was lez for a while before i started dating my boyfriend. in fact, i know she asked my aunt if i was.

what you're talking about is looking for validation and staving off boredom imo, which you can get from friends, relatives, signifcant others. distracting yourself.

I don't think it's the same as a real relationship but different strokes.

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