I agree with you although I find more of an emphasis on sex. I didn't date anyone for almost two years and I don't have sex with randoms hence the no sex. My housemate and her boyfriend told me I wasn't a very sexual person and that I must be a lesbian. WTF?! So because I'm not currently sleeping with men, it must mean I want to sleep with women - so scewed! And for the record, I'm extremely sexual, just don't fancy letting every little prick have a go - how is that so strange?!

^ you just described my situation.

i've just learned to ignore other peoples' annoying comments though. they should spend time worrying about their own lives instead of mine.

Oh yeah all my good friends are in stable relationships and are really in love, it's fucking disgusting the thing that really sucks is that they spend much less time going out with me therefore decreasing my chances of ever meeting someone good, they're actually ruining my life.

No, seriously I'm more frustrated about my laptop not working than not having a boyfriend

ps. although RomanNoseJob made a good point, and I do feel like showing love for someone else lets me be more myself so..I'm just a sad pathetic girl really.

lol!

srsly, though.
if you really wanna get to know someone, love someone, & all that good shit, you should probably avoid talking about politics and/or religion. those conversations usually lead to heated break-ups/fights, depending on how passionate you are about yr opinions, and how well you can hold yr ground.

blahblahblah, not that i know a single fucking thing about dating or being the 'relationship guru'.

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Oh this is soooo true!

My last ex was a devout SATANIST and I was a Kabalah loving Catholic. So, arguments pursued.

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wow. That is just exactly how I feel. thank you!

and it's not that I am anti-love or anything. It's just annoying when I can't find anyone I want to spend a lot of time with and who is worth my attention (this may sound arrogant and I know you're not supposed to have any self-esteem as a girl these days...or so it seems...but I do know that I'm a good catch (although of course, like everyone, I also feel like shit from time to time) so when people keep on mentioning their bf/gf and asking me why I'm alone it's just very frustrating.
It's not like I don't want other people to be happy. I guess I feel like I deserve to be loved as well, and when that doesn't happen, through no fault of my own I think, it's not fun having people question your singleness all the time.

yeah OBVIOUSLY you must be a lesbian!

it's true - society can be obsessed with the idea of everyone has to be in a relationship, and if you're not you're just a lonely spinster. not everyone wants/needs a relationship right now; they probably aren't depressed because of it and there's no need to force them into relationships they don't want.

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Well, as a Catholic, I turn to the Bible as it states, we are here to multiply. And, to multiply, we must have relationships and eventually find the right person to have children with, hence, dating.

But, for me, I can go years without a date and not be bothered nor do I suffer from peer pressure from family and friends stating a should be dating during the times I am single.

I believe one day I will meet the right girl for me - and when she comes along I will be ready for her. I do not masturbate, nor am I a sexually active person. I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a Bulgarian girl, and we have yet to meet. But, I did explain to her, albeit she is a 21 year old sex addict, that I HATE sex. I really do, with a passion. I cannot explain why I hate sex so much, but I prefer to be in a relationship without having sex.

But, when the time comes to have a child, I will be willing to have sex for that reason alone. Not for pleasure or social reasons.

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The first bit of this is very true, perhaps the second less so. Small talk is annoying, period. (Like writing the American 'period' for 'full stop' is annoying, but it flows more easily.) I agree with everything you say Sara Kid A but thanks to a week of living in a sea of mud I'm too tired and ill to rant coherently. This is just to tag the thread so I can return when I've built up enough strength to burn the excess via anger.

I'm putting together the idea that society always needs a double on which it's dependent for reassurance about its own identity and the sex-obsession of our age; coming up with the thought that an obsession with relationships and doubles is the natural conclusion. It's funny how we think that in the past relationships were always about possession (woman from father to husband etc) and financial dealings when nothing has really changed. Relationships are one of the most basic commodities in our consumerist society that you've just GOT to have, or you risk social isolation.

Sorry, not too organised a post, it essentially just tries to link my pet hates together; probably nothing in this. My next post will surely bring in feminism - hold your horses people, I know you're excited already.

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[RANT] I agree with this completely. [/RANT]

I would like the be with someone but there doesn't seem to be anyone suitable out there. They are either arseholes or boring .

I get what you mean.
Majority of my friends are single, it's been like that for as long as I can remember, but every now and then someone REALLY wants to have a boyfriend and will obsess over it and get on my tits. I've actually had five boyfriends which is more than most of them. But I've never thought "I want a boyfriend." If I get to know someone and I have feelings I'll think "I want him to be my boyfriend." But there's no wanting one for the sake of having one. And I never try to go out and meet people for that purpose.
I just let things happen.

Currently I've decided that ideally I'd like to be in a really casual relationship (as in not official in any way and not monogamous and only seeing him once every two-three weeks) with my ex boyfriend because we don't have enough of the same interests (he's not artsy at ALL) for me to want to see him all the time like I did when we were dating and it hadn't sunken in yet that we are two COMPLETELY different people and that it's hard for us to find things that we want to do together or even talk about all the time based on our different tastes and ideas of a good time. Also, if we were dating, which wouldn't happen again anyways because he'd never ask me out seriously, but hypothetically he'd definitely cheat on me and I would fantasize about all the potentially sweet boys I could be dating instead of a grumpy bastard like him.

Love is a basic human need, I mean what is life without love?? it's normal that people are obsessed about it.

sarakida, i know what you mean. i'm in a relationship now and i love it, but when i was single i loved that too. there's absolutely nothing wrong with being single! but some people think it's nothing more than a period of waiting for the next relationship which i guess is why they can't understand why you're happy with being single.

i remember when i was 17, i was single and my best friend had been in a relationship for about a year and a half. she decided that i "needed" a boyfriend and set me up with one of her boyfriend's best friends. and i went along with it and actually convinced myself that maybe i DID need a boyfriend. and it was good for a couple of weeks, but after that it went a bit shit and stressful and generally rubbish, and ruined what could have been an autumn of carefree singleness. moral of the story? never let anyone make you think being single makes you inadequate or try and set you up with someone when you don't want to

I don't have a boyfriend (or a girlfriend, for that matter). I don't feel I NEED one, though. No one seems overly-concerned at my singledom, so maybe they all assume I'm asexual/too grumpy for love. Or my friends aren't meddlers.

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I'm SLIGHTLY happy being single at the moment.
I'm so mind-shattered/in a completely new city, situation/don't know myself well enough/cant get over issues with sexuality, family/have tons of stuff to do/love my friends....

but it's so tempting to just throw myself at someone. and Ive never had a serious relationship (Im 18).
and thanksgiving sucks a bit cus my whole family pestered me about if I had met any interesting girls at school, and I got all pissed and defensive. I mean, I love being around my family, but having a relationship and bringing a guy home would shock them soooo deep to their core, it also hinders thoughts of real relationship.

In conclusion, let's stay single mmkay. I like going it alone actually right now. Yeah.

and I really dont want a hookup. I really want a loving, romantic relationship. but hookups would be so much more hideable/non life-changing than the latter.
Sara, I really hope you continue to keep your head, stay single for the absolutely right guy. My sister had SO many guys wanting her all through university, turned every single one of them down. EVERY single one...until she finally met the love of her life and she's so happy. and it seemed so strange she wouldnt just date those other guys for fun, but it makes more sense now. but shes a christianoid so she didnt need sex, she was satisfied by Jesus. soo, you might not be getting that, but you get my point. update?

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My mum hinted the other day that she thought I was a lesbian, and that if I was it would be ok, either way, she was just concerned that I should be in a relationship. I mean, I'm bisexual but I've never hinted about it to her, I just thought that her priorities were funny.

I'm glad she hinted it was okay, though.
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