Not a huge problem but it's still kind of bugging me.
I've been seeing this bloke for about 3/4months now- don't see eachother every day as he works on the railways, often away and doing ungodly hours. Nevertheless, we do text/speak everyday. We get on like a house on fire and act like a couple/trust eachother. However, nothing has been made official as such. Do i ask him where i stand? whether i am his g/f or not, or do i just leave things and see how they go- avoiding the awkward conversation that may or may not go my way?

He's a great guy but im not sure if im willing to be used to fill in his evenings when he's rarely at home. If he's not willing to make any kind of commitment to me i could be out meeting someone who is? rather than staying loyal to a man who's not around much.

Cheers for any input.

well im not good for advice really on matters of the heart, seeing as my love life has been non-existent for as long as i can remember.

but i guess.. seeing as you dont see him a lot, cause hes working such hectic hours.. why be involved with someone whos hardly around?

i hope you and this guy are able to set things straight. id be up-front with him if i were you.

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My mind is like a plastic bag.

Maybe he doesn't see the need to make things official, officially. If that makes any sense? Maybe he is just assuming that you two are together and therefore does not need to say anything. If you are unsure try slipping it into conversation, somehow, like ask him subtly.

If thats not the case, then maybe you should consider whether you want to be commited to a guy that is away alot, maybe you should consider it anyway.

Stop having sex with him, if you are already, and see what happens. Thats possibly the easiest way to find out if your just a bit of evening entertainment,

if its been three or four months than i say you should ask him.

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Well, is it always going to be like this for him and you?

You should probably talk to him about some kind of plans,
if its something you're worried about then yeah, talk,
you don't need to be terribly specific,
but If it were me, I'd like to know that you both would be moving towards something permanent.

If not, ... you have some decisions to make then.

I had the talk and things didn't go as id hoped so i've decided to call it a day with him, if he's only half in it with me then im not interested. Bit shit but nevermind.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

dear tony the beat
i am very sorry for you. i hope you find someone really good and sexy.
love from scarlet,
x

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buy me some shoes any maybe take me for cola?

Dear Miss Scarlet,
Thankyou and likewise (if you haven't already found someone really good and sexy)

Love from Tony the beat
x

isnt that so typical?
he probably wasnt worth your time anyways. <3

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