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07-19-2008, 06:14 PM
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| | | What’s exceptable & what’s not
Say your boyfriend was, not calling other girls pretty but going into great detail about which parts of them pleased him most about them.
Then pointing out which ones are better than you but it's ok because "you're fine" & informing you of your low scores whenever he goes about ranking these girls against you & bringing up one girl in particular over & OVER & OVER to say how nice she looks? 
Telling you this stuff almost daily like you were his *buddy* or something.
Would you freak the hell you if a boyfriend was saying stuff like this to you? You'd think he's good looking from this description but no.. |
07-19-2008, 06:21 PM
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| | | rid
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07-19-2008, 06:32 PM
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| | | Spelling it "exceptable" is not acceptable.
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07-19-2008, 06:41 PM
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| | | whatever became of that kr user who got "excepted into ucl"? diane was it? the one diablo had a crusade against
but he needs the naughty step
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07-19-2008, 07:26 PM
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| | | He obviously has little regard for your insecurity but personally I would prefer him to be honest with me. It's up to you whether his behaviour is acceptable or not.
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07-19-2008, 07:34 PM
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| | | You should probably just mention to him how you feel about it. It's not like it was on the national news or anything. |
07-19-2008, 08:56 PM
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| | | what an arsehole, give him a taste of his own medicine. find a new guy, bring him up, and tell this fuck how much better this guys dick is, but it's 'ok' because he can't help being born a dickless little shit. |
07-19-2008, 09:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Amity  Spelling it "exceptable" is not acceptable. | it probably wasn't, but i thought i'd point out that it is possible she meant to say 'exceptable'.
in this sense:
2. something excepted; an instance or case not conforming to the general rule.
as in, what kind of behaviour could warrant taking an exception to it. etc
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07-19-2008, 09:29 PM
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Originally Posted by desdemona He obviously has little regard for your insecurity but personally I would prefer him to be honest with me. It's up to you whether his behaviour is acceptable or not. | Obviously we don't have both sides of the story here. But it seems to me that he is bringing these things up out of the blue and comparing her without any need for it? Whenever you're in a relationship of course (or at least I hope) you are keenly aware that your partner will find other people attractive. However, no I do not think it's acceptable to randomly comment on the merits of other girls appearances, especially if somehow they're being ranked against your own looks.
There was the other thread about the asshole boyfriend who thought she was fat. He was also a jerk in that case, but I think that that is something that could have been brought up with much more tact and where honesty would have worked.
Anyway, I do think that your boyfriend, Rosalie, is being really disrespectful.
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07-19-2008, 11:03 PM
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| | | I think what that would be is a 'dependent' personality. It would seem he needs you to boost his self-esteem. Then though if he does that he's using you to get someone better. Not good for you. Objectionable? I'd say so, but I don't know your relationship to him. 'Boyfriend' really doesn't tell me much. |
07-20-2008, 12:12 AM
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| | They prolly have sex...and chat over breakfast. Maybe, if they're lucky, go grocery shopping together...
My advice is he is trying to break up with you by making you so pissed with him you'll do the honours and up and make the first move - that way he ain't the shit. AND he can say to his next gf : yeah she left me after x many months/years of commitment 
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07-20-2008, 12:20 AM
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| | | Dblpst!
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07-20-2008, 01:53 AM
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| | | He sounds like a wanker. Get some male friends to keep ringing you when your with him and make him worry. Then dump him. |
07-20-2008, 04:20 AM
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Originally Posted by rosaline You'd think he's good looking from this description but no.. | lolz |
07-20-2008, 05:26 AM
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Originally Posted by pablita thought she was fat. | lulwhut?
Yes ofc it's unfair to pass judgment when we haven't heard her boyfriend's side of the story but I think she is probably telling it like it is because she did acknowledge that he wasn't calling other girls pretty. If rosaline is being biased, she knows she will recieve a biased opinion.
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07-20-2008, 05:29 AM
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| | | bang outta order... grrrrrrrr... it pisses me off mightily!
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07-20-2008, 05:44 AM
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| | | so my ex was always pulling shit like that and when i objected (in a fuck sake, i'm sitting right here way, rather than a boo hoo po faced jealous gf way) he would just go 'would you rather i lied?'
the thing it, it was more than just - 'oh she's hot' or general checking-outness, it was very detailed and sometimes graphic, like your boy seems to do, and frankly that's just RUDE. he would do it in a circle of friends too, and after i broke up with him, everyone was like 'god we used to cringe so much when he would do that etc'. like sometimes i would be talking and he would literally be breaking his neck looking the other way. it's to be expected in a relationship, but there is a line of manners and consideration that should be toed!
i used to jokingly go 'see something interesting?' when he would do the neck breaking thing, letting him know that he was being rude, but also that i was being lighthearted about it, but it will get to the point (sounds like it's at the point) where he's just disrespecting you, and he might know it, it sounds like a powerplay. big man, puffing his chest out etc...
have you brought it up even jokingly that it annoys you? does he know that girls have been known, on occassion to have self esteem issues, and don't need them compounded constantly?
i sometimes think that you have a wee bit of self esteem issues, just going on comments you make about your smile and stuff, but you are beyond adorable, and if he doesnt take the time to compliment you and talk about his favourite bits about you, then maybe leave him windowshopping for chicks on his own!  |
07-20-2008, 06:01 AM
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Originally Posted by sunday green so my ex was always pulling shit like that and when i objected (in a fuck sake, i'm sitting right here way, rather than a boo hoo po faced jealous gf way) he would just go 'would you rather i lied?'
the thing it, it was more than just - 'oh she's hot' or general checking-outness, it was very detailed and sometimes graphic, like your boy seems to do, and frankly that's just RUDE. he would do it in a circle of friends too, and after i broke up with him, everyone was like 'god we used to cringe so much when he would do that etc'. like sometimes i would be talking and he would literally be breaking his neck looking the other way. it's to be expected in a relationship, but there is a line of manners and consideration that should be toed!
i used to jokingly go 'see something interesting?' when he would do the neck breaking thing, letting him know that he was being rude, but also that i was being lighthearted about it, but it will get to the point (sounds like it's at the point) where he's just disrespecting you, and he might know it, it sounds like a powerplay. big man, puffing his chest out etc...
have you brought it up even jokingly that it annoys you? does he know that girls have been known, on occassion to have self esteem issues, and don't need them compounded constantly?
i sometimes think that you have a wee bit of self esteem issues, just going on comments you make about your smile and stuff, but you are beyond adorable, and if he doesnt take the time to compliment you and talk about his favourite bits about you, then maybe leave him windowshopping for chicks on his own! | OH YUCK. I do appreciate honestly, but it sounds like in the case of your ex he just felt like he had something to prove. Sometimes people will over-enthuse about something (like a hawt girl) just so they can shove it in your face that they have the right to do so. It's insolent and unecessary and indicates a highly self-concerned disposition.
If I had a bf who was constantly falling over himself to look at a hawt girl I wouldn't accept it either - not because he doesn't have the right to do it, but because guys who are that superficial and concerned with a girl's looks just turn me right off.
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07-20-2008, 06:38 AM
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| | | yeah it was weird because it was all borne out of his needing t | |
