Like, turning a crazy relationship calm and sound? Making it work?
Is it possible at all, or should you give up, get over it and find someone else?

Has anyone done it? Never?
Please tell me.


How du you win a boy, that has gone all pissy with you, over again? How do you make someone understand that they don't have to get angry over every little thing, and that if they didn't, things would actually be ten times better? Without them only hearing 'you suck and this is your fault'?

I am sorry I don't have any helpful advice. I was with a boy like this for ages and he kept dumping me after every little fight too then expect me to go back to him. Eventually I realised I couldnt spend my life banging my head against walls and crying out of frustration and didn't go back.

Why do you think YOU need to win someone who is pissing on you? WTF? Have a little self respect.

What happened to break you both up?

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How crazy do you mean?

Either way you could work it out, but it's not worth it if it's really crazy. Trust me. Crazy guys (or girls) have something wrong with them and they think everyone else is there for their purposes. They'll just start getting angrier and angrier when things don't go their way once they get more comfortable with you. Just leave it now before you get stuck with ongoing harassment or worse once you really decide to leave. They need professional help, you can't help them.

Of course if you just mean like regular problems, and don't mean serious anger problems I would suggest what everyone else said and don't let him walk all over you. Tell him you're willing to discuss things like mature people and don't talk to him if he starts insulting you.

Well, the really obvious answer to these questions is of course strong love and loads of good times mixed with a little bit of stubbornness and not wanting to be alone missing the other person. The usual reasons you don't want to break up with someone.

If a relationship is not working and clearly hasn't been working out for quite some time then you can't force it to work. You can't "make" it work. That's bullshit. That's something that people tell themselves when they are too co-dependent and unwilling to go through the pain of ending the relationship. You have to see the bigger picture and understand that the pain is only temporary and this guy is NOT the only guy in the world. You will move on and meet someone else who you're more compatible with. But you can't do that until you LET yourself move on. Until then you're only wasting your time.

No, and I have tried a lot. Now I just end it...

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This thread is actually meant to be about what's in the title, not so much about my current relationship (please ignore the last paragraph in the first post if you don't have any specific advice on those situations)

I really want to know what your past experiences are, and what you believe can or can't be done.

i have had one relationship that started out crazy & unstable turn into a nice, loving, long-term one. but when it ended, it ended pretty badly, and the craziness came back. so... no? or yes? i don't know. i do know that once it did get good, it was AMAZING, and that it was definitely worth both the prior and later insanity.

i've been in quite a few of those fucked-up shit mountain relationships that never seem to go anywhere. and one thing i've noticed, and this is just my personal experience, is that they always come back and tell you how wrong they were once its too late (anywhere from months to years later, and often more than once). and that feels pretty good usually. or you feel bad for what a pathetic shitbag they are. but even that tends to feel pretty good.

In my experiance no, no way did anything change. The good intentions might have been there but you can't change people. Things always go back to the way they once were.

I never use the words "compatible" or "incompatible" in a relationship. There are always two sides to every story. The important thing is to get both of them and find the truth in the middle and make your decision based on that. Most people say "we're incompatible" because they are not getting everything they want all the time and they are assuming that their significant others behavior is "natural" or organic when in reality it could just be a reaction to their OWN unrealistic behavior. That's why real, mature, relationships are all about communication and honesty.

no, it can't be done. yes, i've tried.

i think it's best to move on as fast as possible. not to another relationship, just spend time with friends, instead.

of course there are exceptions to any rule, it depends what the problem is. like hard drugs or problem drinking, once someone's quit, it would make all the differance in the world.