I've never been dumped before.
Okay it was quite a new relationship (3 months) but he was an absolute hottie in my eyes. Gutted. He's being really nice about it, saying he feels like we are more friends & he still wants to see me and then he left and text me saying he will ring tomorrow.

Trouble is as much as I want to see him I feel this is not fair on myself.

What should I do as a newly dumped single girl?
I'm already planning to gategrash a friend of a friends party celebrations tonight, but I'm worried I'm going to get drunk and cry and ruin everyones night.

Ideas please?

Just don't get to drunk tonight! Nothing better than going out on the pull when you've been dumped, apparently. I haven't been dumped yet, but we shal;l give it time!

Seeming it was only 3 month relationship, I wouldn't get to worked up about it. Maybe his right, you are more friends, so keep it that way. At the end of the day, you don't need a boyfriend - but friends are always good.

you sound like you're handling it really well. you are well within your rights not to want to do the matey thing if it's too hard. maybe it will get easier and you'll want to.

i think that you should go out and be with your friends. ring your best friend and tell her what's happened so she knows to be extra-nice to you and she can let other people know not to put a foot in it, and also so she knows not to let you get shitfaced. shitfaced = being That Girl crying at the end (i speak with such authority because whenever i've had upsetting news, i've gone out and got horrifically drunk then behaved appallingly and am still apologising for some drunken escapades - like ruining my friend's book launch cos i was drinking to forget that my grandma had just been diagnosed with cancer- baaaaaaad times!! )

i just read on the 'say something you can't say to their face' thread (something like) "i am thinking of you and laughing. and not in a good way". HA!

Haha yeah I'm hoping not to get too drunk. I'm not really in the mood for pulling anyone, plus my ex seems to know pretty much everyone who hangs out at the places we go in Leeds, so if I did pull I think it would get back to him pretty quick and I don't want to come off like a desperate tart.

oh, i didn't spot you're leeds lass! greetings from wakefield!

as i see it you have two choices, then:
1) come to shaky wakey and go to escobar with the cool cats
2) play my fave Guaranteed Lolz game and go to Flares near Leeds train station and play 'pull the fugliest old man you can find' game [extra points for funky chicken-dancers]. okay, you'll have to forfeit the 'don't get shitfaced' rule, but you'll be too busy with the game to think about heartbreak! and think of all them hunks.

Haha! I don't think I could even bring myself to play 'pull the fugliest old man you can find' game even if I was shitfaced!!
Haha you've made me feel better though, so thank you!

Ay I'm in Leeds. Good ole Leeds hah!

I don't know how anyone can bring themselves to pull fugly old men! You'd defo have to get me shitfaced. However, you could play a lovely game of get as many guys to buy you drinks as possible.

I feel rather lonely here in brum now!

your game is prob. more likely to lead you to wake up the next day with your sense of worth intact.

i'm kinda adoptee brum (warwick uni). gawd, i get around dunni (poor choice of expression having shared the fun of the pashing pensioners game)? we are FINALLY going to have a night out in brum next term - tell me where is good and fun and classy and Dirty Dancing medley-free? ooh what do i like? i like proper pubs. and cocktail bars. and clubs that play the alternative pop of the 80s and 90s, mostly! any ideas?

also, how big is the primark and is it near new street station?

see i'm dead glad i met a brummie!

definitely agree that this is a time for friends. i was in a very similar situation about four years ago. i was totally enamored with this guy though we hadn't been together very long (about three months, maybe not even that, but it was intense) and when he broke it off i made the mistake of completely avoiding everyone i knew because i was embarrassed about what a big deal it was in my head. good friends will understand, though. and do give yourself permission to cry and throw fits when you need to (in the proper company of course. preferably alone for me) - if you don't get through all that, it'll probably come spewing out in other bad places. at least that's been my experience. best to you.

Ohhh the Primark is massive. Three floors, however the bottom floor is kiddies. The middle floor is all womens clothes, top floor womens shows, bags, nightwear and the largest underwear section i've ever seen. Men's section on that floor two.
However, this Primark gets trashed and rammed quick, so get in early to get good stuff!

Birmingham for a night out is alright. We have a massive D&B rave scene in digbeth which is at the custard factory rave nights and the rainbow bar.
Subway city and Snobs is more indie and stuff, but recents.
Broad street may be more up your street I'm guessing, a lot of cocktail bar and clubs that probly are 80's 90s? I have no idea I'm more of a snobs girl.
However, when you all come brum you should definately let me know, a two person KR meet up!

Don't go out and get wasted, unless you can really handle alcohol, and have a certificate from your doctor that you will not be a Crying Drunk. Ever.

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I'm quite impressed with myself, I didn't cry, I didn't get wasted wasted and didn't cry when I had to tell the reason why we broke up to about 5 different people. Had a good time at the club! And although I left relatively early at 2am, I'm not feeling to bad today. Although I got a text off him at 11pm saying that he'd left this bar and got lost walking home some weird way and ended up near my house - which is across the other side of town from his house and this bar. Hmmm;

Sounds like misses you then. Don't go running back the minute he snaps his fingers! Think about it a bit first if that happens

I saw a crying drunk chick last night, outside a pub leaning against a fence. We did the right thing, and asked three times if she was alright. She ignored us, so we moved on. Her friend later came out to see if she was okay, and she ran away from her friend, screaming and crying. Don't ever be her. Plz.

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Time is the distance that you can't return by miles.

I escaped somehow. Let's go

actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

This happened to me last year, but his reason was because I was going to uni. I was proper gutted at the time, but we stayed friends & now he is my best friend in the whole world, we talk every day & I don't know what I would do without him. So really, it sorta worked out for the best, I'm sure we wouldn't have the relationship we had now if it had been a bad break up.

Try to keep your chin up, it might be better for you both this way.

just be beautiful and effortless about it (HA if i got dumped this is what i would TRY but proberly just end up being mental and desperate)
just try your best to SEEM effortless

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ahhh it's good that you had a good night

don't be afraid to lean on your friends at times like this - that's what they're there for!

snobs <3 this is 10 minutes from my house and i will never tire of the sticky floor and confusing mirrors/faces.