It would seem every man i meet is a complete dickhead, appart from my friends obviously. I don't think i am particularly ugly and yet I can only ever seem to hold a mans attention for a few months or at very worst just for sex. Some have even admitted that is all they want from me. When I am out if on the very rare occasion a man approaches me they will usually be really ugly or if they are attractive they just want a one night stand. I'm not totally shallow but looks do come into it, I mean I have to fancy the person. Yet my friends seem to be able to have stable enough relationships with really decent men...who aren't boring but treat them really well.
Where are all the decent men??

If you think they're hard to find, then you'd better get trying even harder. Well, that seems somewhat sensible. Of course, true love waits.

Wear more interesting t-shirts.

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Yea, I really do believe that true love waits. I'm convinced that I'm going to meet my true love in the grocery store.

"Oh, were you going for that last bag of celery? No, no you take it. I insist."

They're in shit chicklit books.

If even Bonnie Tyler can't find a good man, there isn't a lot of hope for anyone else. I realise that now.

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Dunno

We're (obviously I say we, because I'm lovely (don't beleive the lies )) online, or ...

I dunno.

Actually, I know few decent blokes, even most of my friends, while are fine friends, are shitty blokes as regards women/relationships etc.

Really I could only recommend one or at the most two of my friends as proper bf material.

What Mikerochip is trying to say is...........

boyfriend material men/boys/menchildren/whatever are not to be found in clubs or pubs. These are the places where drunken, savage perverts live - with the sole intention of getting in a state and, if they're lucky, ruining some poor girl's week. Even those who are usually fine sorts are transformed into beasts in such places. Look elsewhere.

I can speak for my fucking self.

Thank you

i read some advice on a problem page to do with this, which i thought made sense but it will sound really sad when i say it. whatever. well this girl had written in to say, like, she was a perfectly normal-looking, normal-acting girl and how come all her mates pulled nice men and she never did? and the agony aunt said that if you go into a bar and are stressing about this and start scanning the place and overthinking it then you simply don't look as approachable/nice as someone who's NOT thinking about pulling and who's just there to have a laugh and you can't fake it. i suppose that's just a reworking of the old "someone will come along as soon as you stop looking" adage.

i have much better advice! as soon as i gave up on guys my own age and went OLDER (not grab-a-grandpa or anything, i just mean sorta 25-35), the dickhead frequency became much lower.

are you off out on the prowl this weekend? GOOD LUCK!!! i really want to go out tonight. my sis is here dragging GHDs through her hair and i'm jealous. when student loan day comes i am going to go out and get SO DRUNK!!

I am wondering this very same thing.

well, I do know these two really nice guys who would probably be great bf material...but I'm too shy to take any action

i meet losers or mingers or guys in open relationships.

where the fuck are all the nice, cute, smart, hot men who are single????

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maybe you are attractive but unlikable

Thanks for that advice. I dunno I think these men tend to breed at an alarming rate as they appear to be *everywhere* and the age thing doesn't seem to do any good...i've tried younger than me (i'm 23) older, to around about 28, that's the oldest i'd go to be honest as it seems after that they start talking babies (shudder) and they are all still shitty.
I'm not out tonight am out tomorrow although am not going to be "on the pull" as such, as the guy i'm sort of having sex with is in Amersterdam for the weekend so don't really feel in the mood to pull as I sort of miss him.

I think in a romantic sense that must be it...

Good men get snapped up quick, you ain't going to find that good a guy in a club, this is where I assume you are picking up the one night stand.

Try not giving them sex straight away, you'll soon realise whether they are good or not.

decent men

isnt that like an oxymoron or something?

punksnotdead
i tried that theory
which led me to my above statement
thats when i switched over to women

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should i choose a noble occupation
if i did i'd only show up late and sick
and they would stare at me with hatred
plus my only natural talent's wasted

all of this
the men who will stick around despite lack of sex early on in knowing them are not as a attractive either physically or personality wise
until i am proven wrong i consider all men to be dickheads, though i would love to have a gay male friend since then i wouldnt have to worry about fending him off all the time

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should i choose a noble occupation
if i did i'd only show up late and sick
and they would stare at me with hatred
plus my only natural talent's wasted

and you too, sir.

Ama not a dickhead

*swear*