is it worth the risk of taking it further?
i only know the positive side as, my ex who i was best friends with to begin with, became my boyfriend/fiance for 3 years and now we have been split up sinse july last yr, weve been in touch right thru and now we are best friends again after a rocky few months.so this was cool.
but what about if friends kiss then it leads to sex, both knowing there will be no relationship? much complication?

ive been friends with a guy for a while and we kissed few weeks ago,(we both told each other we like them more than a friend) a week afterwards he said we have to stop as it will lead to other things and ruin the friendship..so it stopped.last week he was very flirty, to the point of talking dirty, then this week we kissed again. he is convinced i want a relationship but i dont know why he thinks this..anyway, what do you think? is it ok to be kissing a friend without harming the friendship?

I could see it being fun, especially if drunk, but it does sound a bit risky. Maybe you should only make out with friends of the same sex (or, if gay, of the opposite sex). Just for funs. It seems safer. Bi people are fucked, obviously.

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so you're talking straight up casual sex with a friend? can you two really handle that? what do your mutual friends think? when he finds someone he's interested in really dating next week will you get jealous?

i've done this with a few friends. i mean, to me friends are friends for a reason and if they're hott then well OK. like if i were to meet someone that i find really attractive and then find out their personality is right on then we'd end up making out, so to me it's kinda only natural that it happen with a friend. and taking it further... well i PREFER this situation over almost any other sex, but you've got to be for real about what's really going on. i had no problem when other girls came into the picture and they felt the same with me and other guys. and it wasn't uncommon for us to set each other up with other people which would sometimes be weird for that other person, but whatev. i'm still friends with those guys and i can't say the same for 98% of my ex boyfriends or even guys i simply dated.

Try not to go beyond flirting
If you can't manage that, maybe you shouldn't be friends

Flashing friends > kissing friends. Kissing can slowly turn into touching and eventually fucking. Wapping a tit or a testicle out pretty much never does.

I kissed my bestfriend whom I was inlove with and denied and when we did kiss, it actully opened new doors and now we're together. a kiss can portray alot, it could mean all or it could mean mistakes

it depends if you're both on the same page. if you both definitely just want a bit of fun and neither of you are going to get emotionally involved, that's fine.

but the danger with kissing/fuckbuddying with friends is that at some point one of you is going to start thinking "hey, well we're both enjoying this, why shouldn't it develop into a relationship?" and the other person doesn't feel the same way and it all gets really awkward and you might not even be friends by the end of it.

BUT then again if you're both on the same page it can be a lot of fun with no strings attached.

There's nothing much shitter than the conversation (verbal or implied) that goes:

"Hey, wouldn't it be wacky if we really fancied each other, eh? "
"Hahaha, yeah, or if we, like, got married or, like, won the Lottery bololololol"
"Yeah.... ()"

Dude you just made me cry

whatever



if you're already unable to stop yourself making out, you're probably going to fuck. it seems somewhat inevitable. so go with it.

it might be shit, it might awesome

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TV needs to stop telling us that, if you go through a lot of emotional stuff and have to gain courage to do something, you will automatically succeed. If more totally-well-meaning people got completely rejected by other totally-well-meaning people on TV, we'd be able to deal with this shit a lot better.

damnit

?

On TV, if one friend wants to do the other, they either get together (usually after about 10 fucking series), or the former turns out to be an evil rapist. In real life, people (aka me) build entire friendships based on the knowledge that one of them doesn't want to fuck the other.

my best mates are five guys. we hang out/go out in a group most weekend, spend a lot of time together etc. i have drunkenly hooked up with (not fucking, kissing and a bit of etc/) three of them. i have no romantic feelings for them and vice versa, hooking up is not a regular/planned thing but you know, sometimes it happens. after hooking up, i ended up becoming closer friends with two of the guys and one of them turned into a total jerk and we're barely mates anymore.

so it really depends on your mates. it might make no difference, or it might ruin your friendship

Kissing a friend, yes thats fine. Last year I had sex with my best friend of five years. We haven't been the best of friends since. It's not worth it.

Were you shit?

Kissing is OK... On the positive side kissing may lead him to go down there....

What is the big deal... A long time ago I was dating this girl; to make a long story short, I would in on my best friend get a blow job from my fiance.... I walk into the room as gagged...and got stuff all over her face. I should have ask what kind facial she was going to get.

It's not a big deal because girls do it all the time....