reciently, i joined a dating site....and i now i guess i wish i never did that.

although i never joined in hope of a romance or a casual fuck (honestly.) i have become completly obsessed with the message responces. jesus, i haven't had a responce from a guy i spent an age talking to...i check my profile every 5 mins, but at the very same time i don't feel like sending him a : dID YoU gEt mY MesSaGE??!!111 sort of e-mail! (nor, do i have any intension of meeting him, i mean he lives ocean, and rivers away from me. and i am too paranoid to fall that. but it was just so cool to talk to him )

maybe because i am new to that sort of thing (the dating site)? but overall i am not that much of a phyco bitch irl!! so bad, again i don't really know why i am obsessing...i mean i remmember several horror stories from college from my classmates. one girl used to talk a guy she met online for over 3 years....um they got engaged met up in real life on two occassions - (breaking off the engagement on their 2nd meeting) she envited him around her house...and erm, hell broke loose ect.

share your expirences?

id rather go out get drunk and be easy than join a dating site?!

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I joined that one that has the quizzes, which I got ADDICTED to and spent ages on, and then looked at my 'matches' and they were just nothing like my type. I can't remember what it's called but it's the one set up by the thespark.com people.

Surely dating sites have a radius thing you can set, so people from further away than you're willing to date won't match?

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OK Cupid?

my friends have quitened down . and i/they have been really busy lately. and i've always guess ive always been curious (about them) ? lately i just havent had the chance to be out, i've been looking after a relative and being all indoorz. the joys of the net

lol, i meant curious about the sites. ok so i just checked his profile and he'd been online today, fahking hell.

That's the feller. It sounds like a name a japanese marketing team came up with though.

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My method, too. Putting on lipstick is a hell of a lot less effort than putting together a profile

lol good one. Dating sites do tend to suck ass

^^ cool avatar...

i don't like dating sites either, it's way better to know someone personally i think. The net just makes the process of actually knowing someone slower, because a lot of the time people just seem to create an idea of the person that they're meeting online and when they actually meet them in real life they realize that the idea they had doesn't match with the real personality or looks of the other person at all. idk about the straight dating sites but on the gay dating sites there are a lot of people who don't care what you have to say or what you think as long as you fuck them or let them fuck you

The last sentence of your post is sadly accurate.

So would I, but it's not always an option for various reasons, not all of them negative. Dating sites are, for obvious reasons, good for gays, shy people, and people who don't like clubs, but there are fairly inherent flaws with them:

• They are populated by the kind of people who use dating sites.
• Sometimes they're also populated by bogus profiles. One my friend showed by, stagsanddoves.com, gave the distinct impression of being about 80% fake profiles set up by the site starters to keep numbers up.
• They're depressingly good at illustrating that people get more attractive the further away from you they are (although to be fair, I haven't lived in enough places to really test this).
• Most people on there are just after sex, but lack the social nous to get it - IRL or on-line. The Internet was supposed to be about no strings sex. It was never supposed to remind you why we have strings in the first place.
• Then there are people from the other extreme, who seem like they're reasonably balanced because they don't bombard you with cock pics, but turn out to just be incredibly hung up about sex or even the mention thereof. These people are worse than the sex-obsessed, because they make you realise that you're not looking for an alternative to the pigs, but a happy medium between the pigs and prudes, which will obviously be much harder to get hold of.
• Newbie syndrome: if you set up a new profile, exactly the same as your own but new, you'll get mostly the same messages from the same or similar people. This is depressing in itself.
• 90% of people who message you will be doing so from too far away for you to seriously want to travel for sex, let alone for a relationship. The more impractical your long-distance goings on would be, the less likely they are to leave you alone.
• No-one respects your age range or your express disinterest in disembodied cock picks (might just be a gay thing).

And so on. It sucks, and stuff like MySpace and Facebook go some way to correcting these issues by relabelling "on-line dating" as "social networking" and thus making it slightly less pathetic and populated by retards (only slightly though). The lack of an actual remit to hook you up with your dream date won't deter the serial jerks, but it does at least mean they occupy less space.

The shit bit is that, no matter what, you can never get a clear idea of what someone's like on-line. Arguably this is good because it prevents us from shallowly dismissing someone on first glance, instead getting to know them. BUT why prolong the inevitable? I guess now and then we'll end up meeting and getting on with someone who we would've overlooked for whatever reason, but there's a fair chance you're just going to realise exactly why the guy is single on the Internet and be less able to get rid of him because you've been chatting for several weeks. I'm not just talking about the uglies here: you can't get a sense of how a person conducts themselves in conversation from talking on MSN, ever.

So basically, dating sites are, and should be regarded as, just another extension of the real world. You meet people in a slightly different way, but it still comes down to trying to pick the right person based on first impressions. So again, it's only worth it if you have a reason to use it.

To be honest, I'm not convinced it's even about the sex. I think it honestly is about the attention. If I'm getting the same kind of stuff as you are, that is. The guys who send you a picture of their cock - if you're lucky immediately, but quite often three messages into a conversation where you thought, just for a fleeting second, you'd encountered a normal person - just seem like an on-line extension(lol) of the IRL flasher.

i wouldn't really talk to someone that would send me a picture of their cock to start with (well, not if what i wanted was to meet them), and yes, usually are the same type of guys who start the conversation with "active or pasive?". But even those guys who somehow seem to be more intellectual and serious and don't send you pics of their cocks are just after quick fucks. It's funny because a lot of them don't tell you that what they really want is just a fuck mate, instead they try to make you believe that they're white innocent sheeps. lol

There are serious guys who are after not only quick fucks, i just don't think you'd find them on the net. I guess that it's because most people i met online -from gay sites- seem to think that people is dispensable

I think being in a major city would be really helpful - otherwise there may not be enough potential matches who you could meet and have a relationship with offline - if that is even what you are looking for.

I've used crazyblinddate.com (from the people of ok cupid) with interesting results. The good thing about this site is it eliminates the incredibly scared crowds who only want to have a relationship through a computer.

You fill out a profile about yourself, what you are looking for, and what neighborhoods you would like to date in. Then CBD sets you up on short notice at a meeting place they choose, like a bar or coffee shop. You can communicate anonymously with your date via text 30 minutes before the meeting time, in case you need to tell the other person what you are wearing or where they can find you.

One guy told me within the first thirty seconds that he was a hypoglycemic (our meeting place was a bakery famous for their cupcakes) and before the 5 minute mark that he was "still dealing with the remnants of a stomach flu." He was a real charmer. After 20 minutes I told him I had to meet my friends and cut it short.

Another was a Google employee and world-traveler, charming and friendly, a little TOO NICE actually. I wasn't attracted to him physically and never saw him again, but he was fun and classy. If I were attracted to him I would definitely have seen him again .

The last one was 30 minutes late and brought a friend with him (WTF) and they sent text messages to each other right in front of me like I couldn't possibly have any idea who or what they were talking about. The guy was cute but acted like a total rich kid spoiled brat egomaniac (he worked in finance).

The whole thing was pretty retarded now that I think about it, even though it was entertaining while it lasted. And it was good dating practice.

Ha, I've never even got that far, most the guys on Gaydar are just angling for some FREE ONLINE HOT CAM SEXXX ACTION XXX or whatever.

i use dating sites a lot and i go out with them


ha ha ophie i went out with a dude from e staganddove and it turned out he wa sthe site designer? in fact at that point i was the first person to join of their own volition.

anyways i've been on loads of internet dates from various sites, because dating is fun and i like meeting new people.

but i'm bored of all the sites i'm on, i need some new ones

i wish they had crazy blind date in london

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lexy you should just start your own site, where you're the only profile that pops up on any searches they do

hetero dating sites are HILARIOUS. my cousin showed me them when she was here. then i showed her gaydar. she was jealous that there was a function to search by cock size..

See, I know what you mean by that, but I still like the idea that they keep all the other profile people down in a cellar in burlap sacks with just their heads sticking out. But yeah, my mate showed it to me, I skimmed through the pics and Jesus there were some ugly fuckers on there. Literally, I went through about 80 profiles before I saw anyone I'd even talk to, let alone stick it in.

There's a lot wrong with heterodating fullstop. Pretty much everything they nick from the gay folks ends up staggeringly pathetic. I'm talking mainly about "traffic light nights", but I'd be surprised if your average heterolady isn't as disgusted and enflacidated by a 44-year old man baying for her vadge as you or I would be about him begging for our cocks if he wasn't a trucker.