I used to be really good friends with this girl since we were 15 (we're almost 20 now) and we've had our ups and downs, mostly catty typical girl bullshit, but we had a falling out almost a year ago where we both said "I'm glad not to be friends with you anymore." Well. I was just going through some old pictures of us and I found one from when we first became friends and it made me miss her a lot. I miss her friendship. She wasn't a bad friend, neither was I, we both were just going through some hard shit and we both kind of overreacted over something so trivial when I think about now. I'm going to be visiting a really good friend of mine, but my ex bff lives with her and I know its going to be awkward. But I don't want it to be. I want to be her friend again. How the hell do I go about rekindling our friendship? I was thinking about just sending her the picture I found but that might be creepy. I just don't know what to say. We both said some harsh words to each other and I'm scared of rejection. Should I go for it anyway? Anyone else been in this situation?

Apologize for whatever happened, tell her you miss her friendship and ask if she wants to get together to talk. I think that's pretty much the only way. The worst that's going to happen is she says no and things continue the way they are.

I was extremely close friends with a girl I met off KR in 2000 when we were 15 or so. We had a huge falling out a year and a half ago and haven't spoken since. Sometimes I'd really like to know how she's doing and let her know that I really hope she's doing well, but I don't particularly want to open the door up for us being "friends" again because too much stuff happened that I'm sure both of us aren't willing to forget about. Losing friends sucks though - especially when there didn't seem to be any good reason for it.

I'm too stubborn to flat out say I'm sorry I think I will though, even though if she rejects me I'll look like a total moron when I go visit my friend and she's there.

Sending the pic would be so sweet. you could write "with friends like us, things like this go w/o saying. you know i miss you."

sometimes, you have to take a break seeing some people. it's way better than losing a friend for good.

good luck! i'm pretty sure it'll work out, you two have history, & good memories

that sounds almost exactly like what happened to me with my best friend. i'd been missing her for aaaaaaages (it had been about three and a half years since we last spoke), and then she randomly found me on the internet. and things have been great since then. i went to her 21st the weekend before last. and she's coming to mine, all going well.

but the thing is, i never would have taken the first step. i'm surprised she did, but she's changed quite a bit. so i reckon maybe you could search her on myspace and facebook and add her or something? or just send a message? someone's got to take the first step or nothing will happen. even if she doesn't want to talk to you, it's important to at least try.