i know where he's been, but he refuses to tell me about any conversations he's had, or what tasks he got completed, etc. he doesn't want to tell me anything and thinks "i have no right to know". i'm just CURIOUS!

anyone else experience something like this before? if he asked me about my day or where i've been, or what i talked about with people, i would gladly tell him.

he's not running a secret drug operation or cheating on me or anything like that. he just works with his friend all the time and im not allowed to know 1 single thing they talked about because "he doesnt care enough to remember" but that's bs. why wont he divulge me just a little?

sounds fishy too me.

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i'm wondering why you're still in this relationship.

you make a thread every other day about your boyfriend and how he doesn't do this or he doesn't do that.

in fact, i believe you've already made this very thread, or something so similar that it did not warrant a new one.

please get on with your life.

Next time you see him spit in his water.

My boyfriend never talks about his work but that's only because he finds it so dreadfully boring that there is nothing TO talk about. He works with a load of 'lad boys' and a lesbian so Im not worried.

Maybe this is the case with your bf, it is just BORING to him.

he works 15 hours a day. his work is his life, he's not telling me about his life.

same with my bf

i always ask him he says 'the usual'

he hates his work thats why.

i used to tell him all about college then i realised he prob doesnt give a shit so we talk about more interesting things.

Be fucking thankful that he doesn't talk about work all the time.

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Ok, here's what I think. There are only 3 reasons for this.

A) He's cheating on you.

B)He is actually in the mafia and/or the drug trade.

or

C) The best option. His job stresses him out and when he spends time with you he doesn't want to think about what he does for *15* hours of his day.

What you need to do, is switch into his place. How would you feel if you were him?

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ew, i wouldn't put up with that bullshit.

That is very very fishy, I don't know. I agree with bonedust, you don' need to put up that bullshit. Maybe you should sit down and talk to him about it, tell him it bothers you. See how he reacts.

YES (and i agree with your other post).

maybe he just wants to forget about his work when he's not there, you know; relax a bit. i'm sure if he started talking to you about his work, you'd soon wish he'd shut up.

He works 15 hours a day at work...give him the other 9 not to think about it.

Plus, he probably knows that the inquiry of "How was your day?" is bullshit. The person asking that doesnt really care, it's just something to say.

I don't think all people take that as bullshit, I don't ask people in a bullshit way at least, well with some people.

It's generally small talk to get a conversation going or to be polite (i.e. asking people how they are doing makes you appear thoughtful of others). In some cases/people, it could be a valid inquiry though.

be thankful he works more than you have to see him

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If I worked 15 hours I would be well fucked off if someone tried questioning me when I got home. Allow that shit...

ok, but his job involves 1.) a guy, same age as him 2.) world of warcraft

he sits around with his friend and plays video games all day. i would think SOME of that would be interesting to talk about. it's not like he's working with a boring 55 year old in a factory doing boring shit. he's working with a guy the same age as him. so you can bet your ass they have conversations all the fucking time and he wont tell me about any of them.

what interesting conversations do you think you'd have about this?

While it is probably wrong & weird why he wont tell you, he is not obligated to tell you...