Ok well if you havent heard I am in an online relationship with a guy who is a year younger than me.


I have issues with my body and i simply ask him for advice or reassurance and doesn't really like to give me any, any time i try to ask what he likes or to go into detail he goes "I dont know!". He's the only person I have in my life and I have no one else to discuss this stuff with and I need him for security, and I thought that had a great deal to do with what a gf and bf is about and he just doesnt seem to want to re-assure me. I can understand it can get annoying cause it gets repetitive but I only keep asking him because he keeps refusing to really say anything or go into detail. He doesnt have any preference for hair color, he says. then he says my hair is "too blonde" (Which is weird because it's just dirty blonde w/ highlights but w/e). The closest he gets to try to reassure me is saying typical one-liners like "youre perfect looking" and I go "why" and he's just like "i dont know." it really bugs me! we fight about it a lot. I think it's just cause he's 16 and he's immature and doesn't want to deal with it. He even says "I don't want to be your father or your psychiatrist." And now he says stuff like "youre not the same person I feel in love with." And he even says he feels trapped because he could never leave me for the timebeing because he's all I have and he knows it would crush me and he's afraid i ll hurt myself or something.

I dont know. It just seems he doesn't focus on appearance enough and doesnt give me enough compliments except my boobs,which is great but i dont want to feel like thats the only good thing about me. He says "I love you" a lot. A little TOO MUCH. It's gotten kinda old. So I guess he cares about me but..

i guess im just expecting too much from a 16-year old. its part of the reason why i was never into them in the first place. I don't think it would be this bad IRL, its just cause all we can do is talk until we meet (which i dunno when or if even).

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my bf was shocked that i drink full fat milk

he sounds fed up/inarticulate/both

you sound a little bit ..cloying

why would you want to stay with someone "for security" and when he tells you he feels "trapped because he could never leave [you] for the timebeing because he's all [you] have and he knows it would crush [you] and he's afraid [you'll] hurt [yourself] or something"? doesn't that make you feel embarrassed and even a bit guilty?

amaze him and dump him before he dumps you

EXACTLY!!!