Don't you hate them? I mean I never thought it'd bother me that much, didn't think they were my thing and clearly they're not. I had one on Friday and the guy didn't even stay the whole night. It was clear we were both wanting other people who were neither of us. I felt completely dead inside and it wasn't because the guy wasn't good or anything...it's just there was no emotion there, no feelings and I didn't even fancy him. I've only told a couple of people as I was pretty ashamed of myself.
Add to that about an hour before I had some other guy on the phone wanting me to come over to have sex...although I'm used to him, I know if it's around 3am and he's phoning that's what he wants.

Trouble is, I'm not like that at all. Clearly I give off the easy vibe because I do always seem to be the one that men want to sleep with but not have a relationship with. It's odd, i didn't think I came off as easy or slutty but I suppose I must do, although I don't believe I encourage that image at all. My guy friends (who know they will only ever be friends) say that I don't appear that way to them but perphaps I under estimate the power I have over men...hmmm

Do you like one night stands?

Nice try. We all know this is a thinly veiled 'I got laid' thread.

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In a word, no.
There's no shame in it but I know myself well enough to know that I'm really looking for something more.

I agree with you, they are a fast track instant ticket to feeling dead inside and devoid of a soul. Completely not for me and I plan on never having another one night stand for the rest of my life.
I would much rather be in a relationship with someone rather than gve it up for free. It's actually an insult to be approached in this way, as they're basically telling you you're only good for a quick shag and nothing else.
It takes a more attractive person to actually keep hold of a man.
I honestly believe the only people that have one night stands are the ones that hate themselves.

some one-night stands are fun...drunkeness helps

if you do it more than once with the same person does it still count as a one night stand?

No. That's upgrading to 'fuck buddy' territory, which I guess is slightly more credible as at least they keep coming back for more, but ultimately it's still equally as embarassing as they'e refusing to acknowledge you as an actual girlfriend/boyfriend.

eurgh i had this 'fuck buddy' type over xmas and then he went back to uni. and then one night i went out and tried getting with this gay guy so i thought 'aha! i know who will have sex with me' so i facebook messaged him asking if he was free and he was like 'actually ive started seeing someone so i dont think it would be prudent so you cant come to warwick'

i nearly shot him.

not because he had someone else because really? cba to even care, but because he was all like 'i hope you're ok with this, please reply'. of COURSE im ok? no strings sex? MY IDEA. cunt.

in short, i dont mind them at all because a relationship is the last thing on my mind at this point in time.

I've had good one night stands and I've had fucking terrible one night stands.

This year, I'm not having any sex.

THEY FUCKIN' SUCK. Someone said it feels as though you're 'devoid of a soul' I know what they're talking about...ughh.

Not all one night stands suck.... as long as you understand exactly what it means and don't have any unrealistic expectations, it can be fun. Not everything always has to be a "relationship".

one night stands can be ok, even having fuck buddies is cool. just don't fall for a fuck buddy...it really makes things complicated.

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I've never really had a "proper" one. I can't much imagine fucking someone I wouldn't want to fuck at least twice. And I'd refuse to ever not know their name or some shit. :kind-of-prude-ish:

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I used to dig one night stands. These days, I'm a relationship or leave it sorta type. They were good for the time, but I've moved on to greater expectations. And recieving them, might I add.

I only had a few one night stands, though, and one of them was one of the best fucks I ever had. For a full year I kick myself for shoo'ing him out of my house before getting his number *sigh* at least me & mine have a good sex life.

one night stands can be good as long as you are both thinking the same thing - i.e. this is a one night thing and i never plan on seeing you again. in my experience, things only go bad when one person wants to see if it can become something more. and while i'm making out i'm all satc power brunch, i have been the sap who wanted to see if it could be something more. eek.

i've only really had one (i had another which turned into a month-long relationship and another which turned into a week of shagging so i'm not sure if they count?), on holiday with my friend's brother.

not the best sex i've had by any means, but it was quite fun, because we both knew it was just a one night stand and nothing more...

of course the next day he decided to make things all awkward and not speak to me because oooooh we've seen each other naked so now it is the LAW that things will be awkward between us forever so it's better if i just don't speak to you ever again even though neither of us want anything more and we might as well have a laugh about it for the rest of the holiday. it really made me laugh actually, i was the 17 year old schoolgirl and he was the 19 year old university student and he was the one being immature about it. pfffff.

Yup. The one thing that's worse and will always trump on how you feel towards one night stands is the feeling of heartache.
At least you're spared that - usually.

see, one nigth stands are great for the fact you can think someone is hot, have it off with them and then never have to deal with them again if they are really turn out to be a total wanker.

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I'm in love with a guy I had a lot of sex with early last year. He has a girlfriend now. He kissed me on Friday. Although that might have been because I fed him a lot of mdma, rather than because he misses me. I wish he missed me. It's all SO COMPLICATED.