ok this is my situation:

-i moved 2,000 miles away from my family to be with him.
-we have been together for 3 years. 2 years of that was long distance.
-i have no family here
-he has all of his family here
-he is trying to start a business with his friend
-he works about 15 hours a day and is therefore, never here
-i spend most of my days alone because he is basically why i moved here but he is never here.
-i dont know anyone else but him really. well i know his family but they arent exactly friend material.
-he is a total workaholic because he doesnt want his business to fail.
-im miserable because i never get to hang out with him
-i hate his business partner/friend with a passion partly because in a sense he has taken my boyfriend away from me when it used to be the 2 of us and no outside people.
-he says we can move away from his business partner in 2 years if he can just work really hard right now.
-so that means i have to deal with never getting to see him + moving away from his mom who i totally love but we would have to move away to get away from his horrible friend.

wtf should i do? i am totally in love with this guy but im so miserable spending every day alone. i dont see the point of getting a friend, it wouldnt change the fact of me never getting to see him. but he is trying to start a business and got a big loan of $25,000 from someone to start it. am i being selfish?

no i can totally understand why you're mad at the shady friend guy, but i mean in reality if your bf is serious about his business then obviously he's going to have to stick around to make it work, right? and where are you going to move when you can supposedly move in two years? somewhere where you have more friends and family? if that's the case then try to remember that (it sounds like anyway) your bf is working so hard and away from you so much so that he can get you moved back to a place where you're happier (with more friends, etc) and where you can get away from shady guy, and you'll be together more so you'll both be happier. i think!

in the meantime take up knitting or seriously make some friends, join a group, or start reading, a lot! you'll have to find something to do other than be miserable, i know you probably do'nt want to and being miserable makes you even less inclined to get out there and do something (anything!) but it seems like that's your only choice since a breakup is not in the works, right?

I don't think you're being selfish, but I also don't think blaming your unhappiness all on him is fair. You need to speak to him and see if he can set aside a specific amount of time that you two can have complete quality time together, either daily/weekly/whatever. Everyone makes sacrifices in a relationship, but ignoring the relationship and putting all your energy into something else isn't acceptable in my opinion. You need to take some control of your own sanity as well and make some friends. Take a class, go for a walk - do ANYTHING you enjoy and try to find someone you have something in common with. making friends as an adult is so freakin' hard if it's outside of work/school. Do you have a job? Even getting some part-time work somewhere will inject you into the community and you're bound to meet some people that way. I have a friend that I'm in school with right now and he's putting a lot of his focus into school while his girlfriend who moved here with him but has no family or friends here and has finished her degree, is waiting for him to finish school. Every night he gets home, he has a ton of work to do and she gets angry at him because she hasn't seen him (or anyone for that matter) all day, wants to spend time with him, and doesn't understand why he seems to put his schoolwork first. I don't see their relationship lasting too much longer because her lack of a social life is starting to put a lot of stress on the relationship.

so, everyone needs some amount of space in a relationship, some more than others, but it's really important to spend some amount of quality time together. That's my two cents.

Its pretty clear. You're not his priority. Just because he's your priority doesn't mean he has to make you his. I doubt he ever even asked you to move there.

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