i got an invite to a birthday party for an ex, someone whom i am on decent terms with but stay away from due to the issues surrounding our break up.

i do not plan on going, never intended on doing so but should i just decline or should i wait until closer to the date and reply stating that i have previous commitments and wish him a happy birthday?

i don't want to be rude and not reply, but i also don't want to open a window to allow this person back into my life.

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If it was me i`d decline and wish them happy birthday,you don`t need to give a reason.

my friends all think i should tell him to toss off.

i'll do a polite decline and wish him a happy birthday.

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your excuse not to go should be some extravagent thing that could no way compare to a lame "birthday party." tell him you have a date in bali, or that you're supposed to go window shopping with your fiancee in milan.

5 months ago, i would have totally done that and it would have been well deserved. at this point i'm so done with deaing with the situation i think it's better off just to be polite. even though in hindsight, he does not deserve it...

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