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02-27-2008, 11:08 AM
|  | standing on the beach.... | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: six feet under
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| | | invited to an ex's party
i got an invite to a birthday party for an ex, someone whom i am on decent terms with but stay away from due to the issues surrounding our break up.
i do not plan on going, never intended on doing so but should i just decline or should i wait until closer to the date and reply stating that i have previous commitments and wish him a happy birthday?
i don't want to be rude and not reply, but i also don't want to open a window to allow this person back into my life.
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02-27-2008, 11:21 AM
|  | Still ill.... | | Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: A hell of my own making
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| | If it was me i`d decline and wish them happy birthday,you don`t need to give a reason.  |
02-27-2008, 11:22 AM
| | standing on the beach.... | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: six feet under
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| | | my friends all think i should tell him to toss off.
i'll do a polite decline and wish him a happy birthday.
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02-27-2008, 11:55 AM
|  | grievous angel | | Join Date: Apr 2006
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| | | your excuse not to go should be some extravagent thing that could no way compare to a lame "birthday party." tell him you have a date in bali, or that you're supposed to go window shopping with your fiancee in milan. |
02-27-2008, 11:59 AM
| | standing on the beach.... | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: six feet under
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Originally Posted by riot_pixie  your excuse not to go should be some extravagent thing that could no way compare to a lame "birthday party." tell him you have a date in bali, or that you're supposed to go window shopping with your fiancee in milan. | 5 months ago, i would have totally done that and it would have been well deserved. at this point i'm so done with deaing with the situation i think it's better off just to be polite. even though in hindsight, he does not deserve it... 
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02-27-2008, 02:02 PM
|  | blah | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: London
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| | | I went to my ex-not-my-boyfriend-because-he-didn't-do-girlfriends-but-wanted-regular-sex's house party last week. He now has a girlfriend and, half an hour after my arrival and takeover of the kitchen, she went to bed. I found this WELL RUDE and annoying because I'd been desperate to ask her if his new bed was better than the mysteriously stained one at his old place.
She doesn't like me for some inexplicable reason.
Anyway, back to you Debaser, just RSVP with an 'appreciate your kind offer, but have another engagement blah blah' response. |
02-27-2008, 03:09 PM
|  | This space for rent | | Join Date: Aug 2006
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| | you should go...w/ a hot date & make him jealous! |
02-27-2008, 03:43 PM
| | unregistered user | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: the greatest country on earth!
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| | | Go and then hook up with his friends. |
02-27-2008, 03:44 PM
|  | closelyguardedtradesecret | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Et in Arcadia ego
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| | | Polite decline unless you want more ass baby mama drama.
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02-27-2008, 03:51 PM
| | standing on the beach.... | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: six feet under
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Originally Posted by historygravity Polite decline unless you want more ass baby mama drama. | i've got enough "ass baby" maiking going on with someone much more deserving!
the decline was sent, and was very polite: "hey, thanks for the invite but i am unable to attend as i already have prior commitments. hope you have a happy birthday! enjoy!!! cheers."
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02-27-2008, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazyj1181 you should go...w/ a hot date & make him jealous! | this would be fun, but the guy i'm seeing thinks he's an asshole and would probably punch him in the face. Quote:
Originally Posted by OrangeSapphire Go and then hook up with his friends. | his friends are mingers....no one worth wasting a nigth of drunken debachary on. even flirting would be a waste of time with that lot.
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02-27-2008, 04:47 PM
| | shambamalam | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: wrong side of the river
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In that case Bry, good riddance to the lot of 'em.
And go make ass babies w/teh new boy. 
Chyia |
02-27-2008, 05:13 PM
|  | BIG AND HORNY | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Into the Pandemonium
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| | | I was invited to an exes party a few weeks ago and actually went... and had fun. When I arrived all his friends were already sitting around paying him out so I just slipped in and joined in for awhile then drank all their booze.
Politely decline. Got something else on that day sorry, have a good one anyway.
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02-27-2008, 05:30 PM
|  | ShortOrderCookOnABender | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: reading
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Originally Posted by Duchess I went to my ex-not-my-boyfriend-because-he-didn't-do-girlfriends-but-wanted-regular-sex's house party last week. He now has a girlfriend and, half an hour after my arrival and takeover of the kitchen, she went to bed. I found this WELL RUDE and annoying because I'd been desperate to ask her if his new bed was better than the mysteriously stained one at his old place.
She doesn't like me for some inexplicable reason. | ha...my ex-who-was-never-my-actual-boyfriend's girlfriend hates me too, it's well funny. it's been TWO YEARS and she still gets pissy if i'm in the same room as him. funny times.
debaser...polite decline is probably the best way. |
02-27-2008, 05:34 PM
|  | kitschy minger | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: the medusa cascade
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| | | was the invite sent by him, or someone throwing a party for him who doesn't know the situation??
the latter hopefully
because if he invited you knowing it would be awkward, that's like 10X as rude
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02-28-2008, 04:31 PM
|  | 700 mile situation | | Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: In a small town where everyones is connected
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| | | I wouldn't go |
02-29-2008, 05:35 AM
| | Registered Member | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: UK
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| | | I wouldn't go either, save yourself the inevitable drama. |
02-29-2008, 06:09 AM
|  | irony maiden | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: denny's.
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Originally Posted by debaser i got an invite to a birthday party for an ex, someone whom i am on decent terms with but stay away from due to the issues surrounding our break up.
i do not plan on going, never intended on doing so but should i just decline or should i wait until closer to the date and reply stating that i have previous commitments and wish him a happy birthday?
i don't want to be rude and not reply, but i also don't want to open a window to allow this person back into my life. | the same thing happened to me recently. only i went to the party. 
it wasn't so bad. we're still in touch with a lot of the same people, so you know.
and then tomorrow i have a birthday party for an ex-best friend who i haven't seen in almost four years. i'm pretty much panicking over it because she's changed A LOT, as far as i can see from her facebook. seeing her in the flesh is going to be fucking weird. |
02-29-2008, 06:34 AM
| | irony maiden | | Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: denny's.
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Originally Posted by Duchess I went to my ex-not-my-boyfriend-because-he-didn't-do-girlfriends-but-wanted-regular-sex's house party last week. He now has a girlfriend and, half an hour after my arrival and takeover of the kitchen, she went to bed. I found this WELL RUDE and annoying because I'd been desperate to ask her if his new bed was better than the mysteriously stained one at his old place.
She doesn't like me for some inexplicable reason.
Anyway, back to you Debaser, just RSVP with an 'appreciate your kind offer, but have another engagement blah blah' response. | hahaha, my best-male-friend's girlfriend dislikes me. i think she thinks we slept together at some point which is complete bollocks. i was at their flat last week and we went into the bedroom to listen to something and she burst in saying, "WHAT'S GOING ON IN HERE?!" i found it incredibly difficult not to laugh in her face. |
02-29-2008, 07:23 AM
|  | I'm the hot one. | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Dying 100 times
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