is anyone else like this??

i am so bi-polar about my boyfriend. one minute i can't stand him, and i'll pick apart every little pet peeve about him and lament on how i'll never be able to survive this into old age, and how i'm going to go insane because of all these little things about him...

the next i'm so in love with him it's sick, i can't stand to be away from him, i'll not be able to imagine ever leaving him, etc etc..

wtf! am i insane or is this (semi) normal???

have you had many boyfriends like that?

Yeah I feel similar with my boyfriend, it's like our relationship goes in swings, it's really changeable at one point in the day I'm thinking of breaking up with him and the next I love him and want to be with him forever... I don't know if it's normal or not but I do have a similar kind of thing with my boyfriend. Maybe it's from spending too much time together or something? I honestly don't know.

no, but this is really only my second "serious" relationship.

the first one wasn't even really that serious so it's hard to say.

but me and the current one do live together... maybe that's why?

Yeah probs.

exactly!!!!!! okay at least i know i'm not the only one. do you live together by chance?

ohh
you share a lot of emotions when you live in the same house

so it's probably natural to be slightly bi-polar about this? he's probably the same about me, except he keeps it to himself more lol???? i'm not like "I HATE YOU!" but i'm pretty out there sometimes. i feel bad.

see this is what i mean. if anyone saw my thread about him not respecting my shit, and now i feel bad about it. it's true, but you know? god!

Yeah we do. I think that's the reason. Someone in your space all the time can be weird. I'm sure my boyfriend feels the same way but deals with it in a different way to me or just doesn't want to admit it to me incase I get upset. He is much better at setting boundaries and taking time for himself even if it's just the other side of the flat doing something I'm not included in whereas I feel like when we're at home together I should be doing things together with him and I annoy myself with it... if that makes sense?

ah me too! yes he is definitely better about it than i am. maybe i should take a hint to myself now that i see i'm not the only one who is like this lol.

our place is quite small though so it's no wonder this happens. you know i should probably give him more credit for not getting upset with ME constantly and hating MY guts for being annoying! he never does that! awww... makes me love him even more. lol!

Aw yeah. I need to be nicer to mine now when he comes home, God love him.

I'm like this with my boyfriend and he's the same with me. Only, I'm the one who gives him crap about it because he's more blatant.
We see each other 3 to 4 times a week which I think is not excessive and on the normal side. I don't think it's normal to be completely consistent but I guess you're the only one who can tell if it's normal or not.

i'm like that with my boyfriend as well. we just get on each others nerves because we spend so much time together. it's kind of like in grade school when you spend the weekend at a friends. friday night and saturday afternoon are rocking but by saturday night/sunday afternoon you can't wait to go home, and on monday morning at school everything is great again.

so you don't think this perpetual annoyance followed by all-ensconcing love is psycho, and my feelings of wanting to break up with him during annoyance time are just part of the give and take of living with a guy? these feelings will go away once i train him not to move my things without first telling me and to throw his socks in the laundry bin and not the corner or under the rug? IS IT TRUE LOVE?!

god this sounds like every relationship ive ever been in

Lolz it IS every relationship I've ever been in! haha

No but seriously. Even when your world is in flames and you just wanna rip him a new one, you know if you told him to fuck off, you would also just die if he did, right?

Yeah that's what I thought.


Just don't be bipolar about being bipolar about the boy. Bc one of my exes was a lil mouthy an odd like that:he would get mad and scream, "Oh god get out of my face!" and then get mad cause I, quite naturally, had left.
hahaha

You're not nuts.

But if you spend more time wishing he would blow himself up on the way to work, than having a good time hanging out with him....re-evaluate!

Chyia, btdt club

Phew. I thought I was just mental.
I bought Matthew raspberry cheesecake today because he's been so wonderful at looking after me this week. I love him so much... on Saturday I was ready to break up with him at the zoo.

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I think that is very common...you're not going to like every little thing about someone. Everyone no matter how much you love them is going to have some flaws that piss you off to no end.

i think it's pretty normal. in my opinion you can't have a healthy relationship without having complete contempt for the person you're in love with at least 25% of the time.

ok! now we're on to something here. so we're not freaks, or actually bi-polar, this is good news! i thought i was really just a horrendous person or something hating him but then loving him and hating and loving etc etc... or just criminally insane. thank god there is more than one of us doing this.

but chyia is right about the "if you spend more time wishing he would blow himself up on the way to work, than having a good time hanging out with him....re-evaluate!"

lol! that is not the case luckily, so i will smile and be happy... until next time he lends my grounded for life dvd to his brother without telling me, or throws my favourite spoon in the garbage because it's ugly. goddammit!