okay i know that sounds really bad, so let me clarify...

it's not that he doesn't respect, me for example. although in a way i guess that's the truth.

see, we've been living together for about 8 months, together for a year and a half, and even before we moved in together, i started to notice things like this:

i lent him my mp3 player that my friend got me for xmas, because he worked construction and hated the guys he worked with, so could listen to music and not have to talk to them all day. a week later, when i asked him how it was going, he said he "couldn't find it" ... obviously i was like WHAT! but he told me to chill out because it was probably in his (extremely messy) car somewhere. fine. whatever. well like six months later he finally admitted that he lost it. how lovely!

this is a continuous thing!

for example. i have been really sick the last few days. on wednesday night, he went to get something from my car, so i asked him to bring in a bag of (expensive) goodies that i had purchased earlier that day on my lunch hour that i forgot in there. he brought them in and put them on the floor in the living room. well i was deliriously ill, took tons of neo-citran and benelyn and all the rest of it, and went to bed. never touched the bag. the next day, i stayed home, he went to work, and i noticed, i could not find the bag anywhere. when he got home, i asked him where he put it, and he went on the defensive (like he always does) claiming that i put it somewhere (i know i didn't move the bag!) and to look for it. well i've been looking for it all morning now (i stayed home again today) and can't find it anywhere.

WTF!

this is always the same. when we moved, i had a lot of my clothes in green garbage bags. he went on an ocd-induced "cleaning" spree while i was at work one day and threw away a bag that had my best coat, three pairs of shoes, and another spring jacket in it. i KNOW he did it, because the bag "disappeared" after he "cleaned" ... i know he didn't do it on purpose but this is what i mean, he doesn't respect my stuff, therefore i don't think he's really respecting me.

what to do? stress!

if someone i knew was taking my stuff and lying about it, i'd get rid. he sounds like jake dean to your nancy hayton

(i don't know who those people are...)

the thing is i know he's not doing anything like that purposely, he's just like, scatterbrained? or... how can i say it... it just seems like he has no cares in the world, la la la, and to him, like i shouldn't be so upset about things like this. big deal, it's lost/missing/garbage by accident, CHILL OUT. but i'm like, not that way. i need order in my life. i need to know where my belongings are at.

i dunno!

yeah I don't think it's unreasonable to expect the person you live with not to throw your belongings away! Actually have heard of flatmates/siblings/parents who pull off these manoveurs for no good reason so it's not just inconsiderate boys. Anyway I'd have a word about it.

lol i love it.

there's a difference between being scatterbrained and being plain inconsiderate. and i think your boyfriend is verging on the latter.

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