Basic summary: one of my friends has been "demoted" by his girlfriend, from boyfriend to... well, I'm not entirely sure what. Far as I know she's not seeing anyone else or doing anything to actively initiate an open relationship, but I can't think of any reason to do it other than as a precursor to breaking up.

I'm mainly wanting to know if there's anything I can do, I suspect there isn't, I've tried talking to him about it and he agrees it's a retarded situation. In every other respect, she's a nice girl, really easy to get on with, which makes it seem so out of character for her to do something like that.

I don't know. Advice plz?

Can you provide more information before I make an assessment?

Yeah, Im that friend. I had this gf for a while and now its just gone cold. Am I bothered, no, but it was a lot of fun.

I understand it's your friend and you want to help but just don't do anything. Let them work it out by themselves.

If people just minded their own business my last relationship would have ended much more nicely I suspect.

Well maybe, but not a huge amount. It's a little sketchy because I'm hearing about it through him mostly. I don't know, I just feel like he should be leaving her with some shred of dignity intact. I'd like to think it's what I'd do.

The thing is, he has figured it out for himself. He just seems to stop short of actually doing anything about it, which makes me wonder if he thinks he deserves this kind of shoddy treatment, or that it's a perfectly normal thing to do.

I can't imagine this one's going to run smoothly though, unless downgrading your boyfriend to fucktoy-with-a-crush-on-you is a sign of respect I've not previously been made aware of.

I mean, does anyone think she's not gearing up to dump him, but waiting til someone else comes along first? Like when you've decided to leave a job but are waiting for another one to come along? I don't know any other way to interpret her actions.