He's an online boyfriend.


yeah I know, but this is a huge deal to me cause ive never been in relationship before, my online peeps were never "relationships" just people I talked to and and tried to get them to have sex with me but always declined because of my age or location.

But heres a shocker...



HE'S CLOSE TO MY AGE! He's actually a year younger than me. I know, right? But this guy is pretty cool and we both developed feelings for each other but we were both afraid the other didnt reciprocate or that we'd scare them away but I finally brought up the courage to chat about it and I was really taken aback.


He's intelligent, especially in terms of history and politics, which is something we love to converse over and he says he doesnt know anyone else smart enough who can chat about those things with. And he thinks Im sexy and stuff so that's cool.

But it's just hard because he wants to try to have it like a tradional relationship kindof where he doesn't have sex with anyone and Im kinda like "dude that's really unrealistic, you dont have to be abstinent for me." I don't even believe in long-term monogamy so. .


And considering I don't know when I'd ever be able to meet him. I mean even after I turn 18 this summer my mom won't let me travel so I'm confused? is this just pointless?

THANK GOD i'm not the only one...

If you work hard not to fuck it up, all will be sweet. Make sure you don't go too long before you see him in the flesh. So crucial.

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Congrats, Nina.

How far away is he?

He lives in Delaware. So quite a ways away.

That's the thing. How long is too long?

Well, it depends on the distance too... if you're a couple of hours away, then it's a few weeks, but if it's a serious distance, or less distance but still a serious expense and effort, then a few months? Even if you don't see each other for a while after due to circumstances, I think the sooner you meet the better.

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I escaped somehow. Let's go

actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

I would love to meet on like spring break or something or at least summer! But my mom stands in the way.

Well, that's soon isn't it? Not totally sure about N Hem holiday times. I just think if, for example, you can only meet once in six months due to distance then it should be after one month, not five.

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Time is the distance that you can't return by miles.

I escaped somehow. Let's go

actualy [sic] I have quite a blessed life if I'm honest. I have many people to love, hate few and have few money problem's [sic].... What more does a person need? Oh yeah and I have some kind of humbleness unlike you of course ^_^ ~ CarefulCarpenter

this could be a stretch, but what if she came with you? would she be okay with it in that case?

Good luck,i need a manfriend......

i saw this thread in the latest threads section and i instantly knew the author...

anyways, congratulations and good luck i guess?
and nina, i realize your mum is very strict and everything but what if he came to visit you?

congratulations nina.

what does your shrink think about it?!

Haha, same. And I actually felt slightly delighted.

Nina, it does sound like your mother is quite controlling. While I'm not suggesting you do a runner for the first bf you ever have, once you hit 18 you'll have to make it clear to your mother that she can't hold you back from doing the things you want to (within reason). If you get yourself a job when you finish school and/or go to study, and you're getting enough money to pay your bills (or pay a sum of money to your mother each week/month to live with her) and put some aside for trips to see your bf, that's the ideal position to be in. B/c saying "I'm free to do what I want but can you pay for it?" would be a bit cheeky. Get your own money in your own pocket and your mother can't tell you how to spend that, and you can travel as you please.

Congrats, Nina. I'm genuinely really pleased for you. I actually look forward to the day I can log on to KR and see that long-awaited "I got banged" thread.

yay Nina!

i agree with Livoline, maybe he could visit you?

Aren't we all?
And Nina, where in Deleware is he living? I used to live there as a child, and have extended family that grew up there. I can tell you if it's white trash-ville! Do you guys talk on the phone at all? Or is it strictly on the internetz?

Pity 18 isn't a big a landmark in the U.S.
I mean you still can't drink beer for Christ's sake!
Though you ARE supposed to be officially an adult.
Go tell your mom to go suck a big one this summer

We talk on the phone sometimes but its mostly online via mic. He lives in Middletown.

Yeah I guess I could geta job and get my own money to pay for it, that seems like the most logical way. I couldn't get him to visit me because his parents wont let him. I don't have my own car and don't know if Im gonna get one for my 18th b-day, but if so I'd have to wait till then before I tell her.

He doesnt know yet. I see next time on Valentine's Day. Yeah I know, what scheduling. So that'll make for an interesting conversation.