3 whole years ago I split with a guy who I was with for almost four years. I moved on, went out with other people, traveled the world and generally enjoyed myself. We're on speaking terms now and I'm happy with where I am in life. We had a bit of a fling again before he moved abroad and every few weeks or so we'll chat on msn.

The thing is that for some reason, even though we're not spoken in over a month I can't stop thinking about him. I'm dreaming about him, about us being together. I think about him during the day - he'll just pop into my head for no reason and it's really getting me down and I even wake up in a panic.

I know he'll meet someone else and be very happy and that's what I want for him. I love him but I genuinely just want us both to be happy and that doesn't matter if we're together or apart. I have great friends, a great job that I love. I'm not seeing anyone right now but I'm enjoying life. So why do I feel so down about him? I just want to stop thinking about him ALL the freakin time! Any suggestions?

I read somewhere someone had written "if you love them let them go, if they come back you'll know." This really helped and I believe it, I just want to get the boy out of my head. I pretty much have cut contact so that's not the problem - help me ;-) xx

well you said you still chat on msn? maybe stay away from that too? stay busy and give it more time. i know it's been a while but you must have really strong feelings for him. everything in time will work out.

I hardly ever speak to him online. I really don't know what's prompted him being in my head 24/7. You really think I need to cut all contact? You think I'll be better off without his friendship? hmm... I don't know if I could cut him out of my life all together... I don't feel that that is the issue. I wish it were that simple xx

oh...hmm...well maybe something else is going on in your life right now that is making you vulnerable? maybe look at the whole picture? soul search! Lol...corny, i know. i pretend to be a therapist in my spare time.