So, whenever I even remotely fancy someone, I sometimes feel strangely disgusted by them despite still feeling attracted to someone. Does anyone know what I mean? Why is that?

i get this too. i usually end up despising people i am attracted to, for no good reason at all.

i also tend to get strange random crushes on people i barely know, and as soon as i learn more and more about them and the mystery is taken away i start to feel disgusted by them? i can't understand why. it happens with almost everyone i like.

this answer had no substance, but i know what you mean. i can;t explain what it is or why.

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I was the same with my husband. Enjoy the disgust. Revel in it.

So did this ever lead to a relationship?
I was thinking that maybe it's because I don't want to get hurt, so my brain tells me they're disgusting so I don't even have to try to chat them up etc.

i think that might be it. partially.
nigella, what do you mean "WAS the same"?

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Maybe you could send him like a coat hanger or soup mix in the mail with a post it-
"when you paint with your eyes closed, you never become picasso, you just become an ironic narcissist with uncomfortable shades".
Throwing people off is thrilling.

-ktlr

Haha, I was wondering about that as well! So the disgust turned to love or what?

Well he was a big big tory, and he looked kind of gimpy. None of that has changed, I just leant to enjoy it, the constant debasement that is.

I get that sometimes too! I think its my brains way of protecting me from the actions of my treacherous heart.

It totally makes me ashamed to feel that way!

I'm pretty certain men are kind of attracted/disgusted by us too. Particularly our physicality.

hmmm,

yeah i think thats a little bit different, there is rarely any good reason why i should be disgusted by the person. works as a defensive mechanism or something?

it might be a rebellious thing as well. i hate being a slave to my emotions and i have these constant little battles in my head over whether i should be so interested, and it turns into a bit of an obsession. i end up havng been consumed to the point that it sot of disgusts me, as does everything involved- including the person i'm into.
its not really that dramatic though, it happens more subtly.

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Maybe you could send him like a coat hanger or soup mix in the mail with a post it-
"when you paint with your eyes closed, you never become picasso, you just become an ironic narcissist with uncomfortable shades".
Throwing people off is thrilling.

-ktlr

I totally get where you're coming from. I'm not sure if it's entirely a defence mechanism though, I think I'd be more indifferent than disgusted if that were the case. I just see it as being sick of those thoughts and emotions constantly swirling through me, even though i like them. It's akin to being disgusted by a food that you like, because you've had too much of it.

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