he wont tell me about any conversations he has with his friend. when i ask what he talked about, he'll just say "not much" or "nothing really" he gives no detail about anything. i always tell him about funny or interesting things people say to me. yesterday he got a ride to this chinese restaurant from someone he moved furniture with at a hotel, and he didn't even tell me what the guy did for a living when he rode in the guy's freakin' "heating and air conditioning" truck! i even asked about the guy, but he failed to tell me what he did for a living when he rode in the guy's freakin' truck. i only found out about the guy's profession because i saw him today in the truck they rode in.yeah, i know it's not a huge deal, but when you ask someone about a person, you usually tell them what the person does for a living.

this is just so annoying to me because im the type that actually talks about my day and i tend to rehash it for him. but whenever i ask him about his day, he will sum it up in about 2 sentences.

doesnt he understand that i love him to death and want to know about his daily life? he is one of those "i dont care much about anything" types
but its like, ok, i KNOW he thinks about his day when its 9pm and hes at home for the night. who doesnt? i dont know, i just dont really understand it. maybe he would tell me alot more if he liked me more? is this a case of him not really liking me?
he would rather sit in front of the tv and not say a word than talk to me at night about his day. i feel such a big loss of connection. i dont even know what goes on in his life because he never tells me. and yes i've talked about this with him.

does he get chatty bout anything else?
If not, maybe he's just quiet...

He sounds a lot like me. Chances are most of his days are remarkably boring and he has no desire to relive them in graphic detail purely for your benefit.

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I'm not going to think I'm so self important to bore someone that badly. Most of what goes on day-to-day is really not that interesting.

I worked, smoked a few cigarettes, came home. Talked about the drier with my roommate. Took a shit. Wiped vigorously. wen to bed.

Some things are best left unsaid.

i don't think he likes you very much

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Yeah I hate people who don't detail their stories too!

maybe he'd rather talk about something else? the last time i was in a relationship we just used to arse around and make each other laugh rather than give a detailed summary of our daily events...its all about the shits and giggles...

Maybe you ask too many questions and irritate the fuck out of him to the point where he sits there seething, wishing you'd just go away.

That's what I get like with people that ask too many questions I don't care to answer.

what if someone cares about you and doesnt think that what you did that day was boring

asking people questions = showing that you care.
idk about you guys, but if someone asked me questions about my day i would feel flattered and have no problem answering them.

i just find it extremely weird that i have no idea what he does for the 15 hours a day when he's not with me. how can you just pick up again 15 hours later, not knowing what they really did during that time. i would feel alot more complete if he filled me in more...

sometimes i think he gets all talked out from hanging out with his friend that he doesnt want to talk anymore after he is done with him. they are business partners so they spend all day together and chat all the time i assume.

he works 15 hour days?
he's probably just exhausted and really honestly does not feel like talking, or reliving those 15 hours for another half hour.
maybe find something other than work to talk about?

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Wouldn't he just be repeating himself most of the time though? If he works, like most people, he will probably have a fairly dull, unchallenging job which quickly falls into a set routine. I know the last thing I want to talk about when I get home is what I did at work that day.

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Not to be harsh but I think you need to get over it. Honestly, the day to day stuff IS boring and I think I'd be annoyed if you came home every day and told me about every conversation you had. Maybe he's trying to drop a hint to you, sum up his day in 2 sentences hoping you will do the same. If it's not interesting to him, why would he want to talk about it? More importantly, if you love him so much and he doesn't want to talk, why do you want to force him to talk? Further, why is it all about you anyway? So he doesn't want to talk, suddenly he doesn't like you as much? Get a grip.

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god what's with this person always whining about their boyfriend?

i have no advice other than DUMP HIM because you're obviously not happy and you're both emotionally retarded or something.

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this is just so annoying to me because im the type that actually talks about my day and i tend to rehash it for him. but whenever i ask him about his day, he will sum it up in about 2 sentences.QUOTE]

~So what your saying is that because you act this way you expect him to do the same?
If he was never like this before i think you should be asking yourself ' am i trying to change this guy' and if your answer is yes then start asking yourself why?
i've wasted so much time in my relationships staring at what he's done wrong. when i do it this way it really helps me figure out why i'm with him and that its a nice reminder for me, (and keeps me from being bitchy/naggy/needy).

i think you're lucky. a friend of mine whom i (really do) love really deeply always gives me these in-depth reports of being a wine waitress in an executive lounge at a football stadium

this job involves him working with "his buddy" about 13+ hours a day trying to make their business work.

basically they hang out in a room full of computers all day, and im sure they talk all day too. he refuses to tell me even 1 thing they talk about, because he "cant remember anything"

i'm sorry but thats a big load of crap to me. you dont just forget every word you say during the day. you remember everything you say! and he denies it.

You have issues.. not sure which ones but you sound draining to be with. No offence. Maybe he's just really introverted and finds having to talk to people and stuff all day really tiring, then gets home and wants to sit there recharging.

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