Yeah...it was really fucked-up for that to come out into the open, if it affected you that way. I could totally see how that would make you feel self-conscious.

The thing is, all men (and women) have things that they fantasize about. But fantasies and fetishes are just that...they don't need to take over a real relationship, so try not to let that happen.

Look at all of the men in the world who are married to great big COWS. Do ya think that they don't whack it to mags of perfect-looking, hot models and shit?? Of COURSE they do! But it's separate from the fact that their wives are the ones who they love and who are there with them in the real world, not some fantasy woman.

I know that my kid's dad was way into big tits too. In fact ALL of his exes were very well-endowed, except for me. I think he learned that those "things" did not a relationship make. It was only one element. When we got together, he definitely went against type, since I do not have big ones. We lasted for over four years and are still really good friends.

The thing you need to remember is that he loves YOU, the person he sees right in front of him. He knew there were no big boobs in the deal, but there was so much more to you that was better. As I got older and more secure with myself, I forgot about the stuff that I wasn't.

That was really stupid of him to say, even if you did ask. If you're going to be honest about something like that you can at least be arsed to explain that it's not important etc... right away, instead of waiting until it's become a big issue.

But like others have said here, it probably isn't that important. He already knew you had small tits before you got together (unless you put grapefruits in your bra or something), and that didn't stop him from falling for you. Just make sure he knows that remarks like that hurt, and make an agreement with each other to avoid getting into he whole tits & body discussion. It's not something you should have to put up with either way.

It was a horrible thing to say. Don't be hurt and take it out on yourself though, small boobs are brilliant I wish mine were smaller sometimes - everybody thinks the grass is greener. Your boyfriend has no right to make you think in a negative way about your body .If he wants to have the kind of relationship he's setting up by coming out with that shite then you need to give it to him - be blunt about his penis and see how he likes it. I don't think you should be with someone who says a part of your body is 'too' anything... he should accept you and appreciate you for who you are or at the very least he should want you to be happy and not make you feel inept in a department you can't do anything about unless you go get some kind of surgery.

Actually Cinder, that's a really good point. Before I had my implants my boyfriends always said that although my boobs were teeny tiny they loved them all the same, but the point was they were teeny tiny, end of and you couldn't really deny they weren't, it was fact.
Whenever I hear scenarios like this tho, I automatically give an emotional response which comes naturally to me. Like I'm programmed to think: 'negative comment from a guy, run away'. But things aren't always so black and white. Unless we're talking about violence of course in which case I adamantly say run away and don't look back.
But yes Cinder, in conclusion yours is a much more measured response.

I don't think he did anything so terrible. You know that you have small boobs and you asked him if you do. What did you expect? Yes, it was stupid and insensitive of him to answer you the way he did. He should have just lied, or said that you're perfect the way you are or something like that. But I don't think he was necessarily trying to hurt your feelings. He was just being honest (a little too honest) and wasn't thinking at all about how it would come out.

Don't ask people things like if your boobs are the right size or if you're fat or if you're pretty. You shouldn't need other people's approval about your looks. I would never ask my boyfriend if my boobs are the right size, because they are the size they are and I can't change them (unless I got plastic surgery which I am not doing), so I just accept myself for what I am, and obviously my boyfriend accepts the way I am also, or he wouldn't be with me.