I'm sure at one point or another I probably posted about this before...and I know I am being really immature to feel like this, but God I freak out when my man has a lad night. He only has one like one every week or so but each time instead of going out with MY friends like a sane and rational girlfriend-I spend all my time obsessing about what HE is doing and getting crazy thoughts he will leave me. Can anyone here relate or have any advice. Please don't write back that I am being a stupid bitch cause trust me, I already know that. I just can't stop even though I KNOW I am thinking irrationally.

Because you're really paranoid?

^ in a nutshell, what she said

Advice, force yourself to go out with your friends when he's with his
Do you have a reason to feel like this, problems in the relationship? Because its not normal.

I love when my boyfriend goes out with his mates cos I get drunken phonecalls...its good banter and they all make me laugh. Do you like his friends? Do they like you? Do you even know them?

I'm paranoid for sure. He hasn't given me a reason to not trust him. I guess I am carrying lots of baggage from past relationships (even though me and him have been together a yea and a half)....I don't know why I see every girl as a threat. He isn't even WITH girls, he is at his house with friends...I guess I get paranoid they will bring girls. I know I am being ridiculous but I can't help worrying. I want to.

It's ok I know what you mean, when my bf went out without me I used to be paranoid it was with this girl he was with before we went out....
But the best thing about lads nights is that you can see your friends so organise a girly night and you will not obsess I promise!!