why can't I handle his lad night? - Page 2

TheEmpress · #6 11-13-2007, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by stellargirl9

I'm paranoid for sure. He hasn't given me a reason to not trust him. I guess I am carrying lots of baggage from past relationships (even though me and him have been together a yea and a half)....I don't know why I see every girl as a threat. He isn't even WITH girls, he is at his house with friends...I guess I get paranoid they will bring girls. I know I am being ridiculous but I can't help worrying. I want to.

Snap out of it. That's all there is to say. There probably aren't any girls, and even if somebody did bring girls, those girls wouldn't go after him after finding out that he was spoken for. And even if they DID try it, he wouldn't fall for it, since he's with you.

Stop worrying for no reason and enjoy your life and relationship, ffs.

stellargirl9 · #7 11-13-2007, 09:21 AM

You girls are SO right. Thank you. I am really trying hard to do what you say as your advice is logical, healthy and great. I want to start thinking more rationally before I scare him away with my paranoia. I AM in therapy by the way and trying to work through these feelings and normally think I am doing quiet well, then lad night comes up and I fall apart all again.

Mallory Knox · #8 11-13-2007, 09:38 AM

I never get drunk phone calls

kesh · #9 11-13-2007, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by stellargirl9

I spend all my time obsessing about what HE is doing and getting crazy thoughts he will leave me.

he might. this kind of thing often is a self fulfilling paranoia

Ophiel Ophiuci · #10 11-13-2007, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by stellargirl9

I'm sure at one point or another I probably posted about this before...and I know I am being really immature to feel like this, but God I freak out when my man has a lad night. He only has one like one every week or so but each time instead of going out with MY friends like a sane and rational girlfriend-I spend all my time obsessing about what HE is doing and getting crazy thoughts he will leave me. Can anyone here relate or have any advice. Please don't write back that I am being a stupid bitch cause trust me, I already know that. I just can't stop even though I KNOW I am thinking irrationally.

Um. Why don't you go out with your friends?