Do you believe in it? Does it exist?

I think it does

Love has to be cultivated over time, I think.

But the MINUTE I met my husband I swear I saw our future together flash before my eyes. I was like, that's it, I'm done, he's mine.

And probably that is random coincidence but I KNEW he was meant for me. I recognized the other half of my soul in him

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years.. the minute I first saw him I knew there was something special about him. I had a feeling we were going to be together. But then again, I'm sure I've had that same "special" feeling for lots of other guys, and I turned out to be totally wrong. So I think love at first sight is total bullshit. It's nothing but physical attraction at first sight. You can't possibly know the person.

I've been dead wrong plenty of times.

I have had the feeling of love at first sight only once really and I was more or less right. I say more or less because although we're not together anymore, he was definitely the greatest love of my life so far and the relationship lasted years. But I have also felt flashes that were like deja vu when I met a few other people. Like I knew they would be important in my life (but not necessarily romantically) from the moment I saw them. I've never been wrong that I can recall.
No, you can't know the person and it may be all physical, but our brains are much smarter and quicker than we give them credit for (in terms of how quickly they can analyze another person at first sight). I have read many studies that say women decide within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone what kind of relationship they want with that person.
So I guess I believe in love at first sight as much as I believe in love. (I have mixed feelings on it btw, though I'm not giving that impression.)

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Everytime i fall in love at first sight(in my entire naivety) nothing ever happens.
I actually experienced it once. when i was 15. 6 years later i still think of him a lot. when i first glanced at him i just was like WAOW. and just felt all fluffy inside. and i saw him from kinda far away. like first day i was obsessed. then at the end of that summer i moved in a city 5hrs away never saw him again and god knows what happened to him....it was very innocent though. i still hope to see him soon

i think it exists, it happened to me. and even tho the guy was a bastard and broke my heart after a couple of months, i still recall the magic of the first time we met. it was one of the most amazing feelings i've ever felt.

I agree with this.

Love does take time to form. You have to know someone's ins and outs and be able to accept them for who they are in order to fall in love with them.

i don't believe it's love people are feeling at first sight. lust, yes. infatuation? sure. but love has to develop and i don't think you can love someone when all you know about them is what they look like.

then again, maybe i'm just too cynical.

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"I knew I was too late - and I was glad something bloodthirsty waited in the wings. For in failing at this, I forfeited any desire to live."

i like to say i believe in love at first sight, but i know that love is something that takes time.

however, the first time i met my boyfriend, i just knew. literally within hours of meeting him, i was turning my life upside down so that i could be with him because i just KNEW that he was the one.

and more than two years later, we're still together and happier than ever. i'm moving in next month, and we plan on being engaged within the next year.

so even though i know it's kind of impossible and silly, if i were to be asked that question i would say yes. i'm romantic like that.

I think it does exist

i don't think of it as "love" really...i think it's more like what herekitty referenced, the study of women knowing how far they wanna take their relations with a new male acquaintance (i read an article about that too awhile ago). the only relationships i've had have all begun in the "love at first sight" fashion--i knew that i was going to have a deep and romantic connection to them someday, the very moment i first saw them, even in the most recent case which logically speaking seemed impossible for the first two years i knew him. in fact he and i still have an impeccable bond, so much so that we've transcended the whole "girlfriend/boyfriend" schtick (or so that's how i see it).

of course, i'm not naive enough to believe nothing will change, either...but as it stands that's how it seems.

No. I think that if you believe in love at first sight, then your concept of love is just wrong. You might find yourself interested in, or even attracted to, someone upon seeing them, but you cannot love them. I cannot define love, but I do recognize that you have to know someone in order to love them. Perhaps love at first sight could exist among the entirely superficial, but I don't believe that anyone is entirely superficial. As Lady_Violet mentioned, lust at first sight is possible, as it is a response that can be stimulated in a person by image alone. Whatever you may feel for a person upon first sight isn't love. Love is not based on sight, it is something much deeper and requires mutual familiarity.

its total bullshit

I think anyone that can fall in love at first sight must be incredibly shallow, because that's just falling in love with the person's appearance. Unless they're claiming to have some kind of psychic ability.

^^I'm not shallow at all so I kind of resent that. I'm also inclined to ask if you've ever dated anyone you found unattractive because I bet not.

but that's besides the point. I think you guys are underestimating the power of your brains. believe it or not, I'm not particularly a "romantic" in the sense that I don't really believe in love. I mean I experience prolonged feelings of love, and do some silly things when I'm "in love" etc, but when it comes down to it, I think the notion of romantic love that lasts forever is itself bullshit. Love at first sight is probably no more bullshit than that. We are nothing but a big mess of chemicals and experiences that shape what we see in the world. We are animals. Animals in clothing. Animals who have cultures with rules that dictate which ways fulfilling our basic biological desire to fuck will be acceptable. (I'm way over simplifying but I hope you get what I'm saying?) But basically, non verbal communication is way more important than you think it is. You pick up signals from people that your brain interprets in the blink of an eye. This guy I experienced love at first sight with was an outcast type- not conventionally attractive but very attractive to me, so I don't think it's all about appearances. Or at least it wasn't just about "looks" with him. It was about his mannerisms and the look in his eye and so on and so forth. And his smell. I've never loved the way a person smelled as much as I loved his smell.

And btw, not to sound like a nut (so hear me out) but I do claim some psychic ability. but it's all based on my brain figuring things out + experiences I've already had. Example: the other day our server at work had a meltdown. It had also crashed several days before (but not as severely.) The night before the big meltdown, I realized I hadn't backed up my work in a while and knew I should do it but walked out of work without remembering to. I suspect the first crash made me start thinking about backing up my work and that's what made me have the impulse to back it up, but it was "psychic" in a sense.

Another example: my cousin and her kids and husband experienced some trauma at sea- had to be rescued by coast guard, etc. I was very busy at the time & saw my mother for some reason or another and she didn't tell me because she didn't want me to worry. It was over and they were safe anyway. I had a really vivid dream about my cousin in the nights after that. I don't normally dream about her and it was intense. I do believe that I know my mother well enough to read on her face that something was wrong and my brain is somehow connected to hers. I know it sounds wacky but we don't really know half of the stuff that's going on in our brains anyway.

So I'm not saying I can predict the future or anything, I just believe that my brain can process things I'm not aware of/couldn't put together in my conscious mind. I also mentioned that there were a couple of people I've met and I instantly knew they would be important to me and I've never been wrong about that. It could be self fulfilling prophecies, I dunno.

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i believe in love at first type

I suppose I'll go on to defend my bullshit point by saying I think it depends of your definition of love as it seems to be very different for each individual.
Herekitty I do agree with you to some extent but for me, to love somebody is to know them, feel totally at eas