Religious Issues in a relationship

Crazyj1181 · #1 09-17-2007, 06:50 AM

My boyfriend is Greek Orthodox, I am 3 different religions: Catholic, Protestant & Jewish (mom is catholic & protestant/dad is jewish)...

In a few months my cousin is having his bar mitzvah. My aunt said i can bring a guest so I asked my boyfriend to come. He asked me if he has to "wear one of those hats" (yarmulke) and I said that, yes, I believe he does, as my jewish fam is pretty religious (i, as a person, am not...have never been to church or temple). He told me if that is the case then he cannot come.

I don't really understand what the big deal is about it is. Maybe it's b/c I am non-religious that I don't understand but I feel out of respect for my culture he should just wear it. Every other guy will be wearing it so it isn't like he will be the only one...and his reasons for not coming aren't that he doesn't feel comfy with my fam or whatever...his sole reason for not wanting to come is strictly b/c he has to wear a yarmulke.

Does anyone know if the yarmulke is definitely required for such a ceremony? Is there anything I can do or say that would make him comfortable with the situation? I need some advice. He did say I can ask someone else to come in his place, but I was hoping he would agree to come with me.

Mallory Knox · #2 09-17-2007, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Crazyj1181

My boyfriend is Greek Orthodox, I am 3 different religions: Catholic, Protestant & Jewish (mom is catholic & protestant/dad is jewish)...

In a few months my cousin is having his bar mitzvah. My aunt said i can bring a guest so I asked my boyfriend to come. He asked me if he has to "wear one of those hats" (yarmulke) and I said that, yes, I believe he does, as my jewish fam is pretty religious (i, as a person, am not...have never been to church or temple). He told me if that is the case then he cannot come.

I don't really understand what the big deal is about it is. Maybe it's b/c I am non-religious that I don't understand but I feel out of respect for my culture he should just wear it. Every other guy will be wearing it so it isn't like he will be the only one...and his reasons for not coming aren't that he doesn't feel comfy with my fam or whatever...his sole reason for not wanting to come is strictly b/c he has to wear a yarmulke.

Does anyone know if the yarmulke is definitely required for such a ceremony? Is there anything I can do or say that would make him comfortable with the situation? I need some advice. He did say I can ask someone else to come in his place, but I was hoping he would agree to come with me.

fuck family shit
he doesn´t have to wear a hat he doesn´t agree with
in fact he doesn´t even have to go
it´s not his religion

Hedgehog · #3 09-17-2007, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Crazyj1181

My boyfriend is Greek Orthodox, I am 3 different religions: Catholic, Protestant & Jewish (mom is catholic & protestant/dad is jewish)...

In a few months my cousin is having his bar mitzvah. My aunt said i can bring a guest so I asked my boyfriend to come. He asked me if he has to "wear one of those hats" (yarmulke) and I said that, yes, I believe he does, as my jewish fam is pretty religious (i, as a person, am not...have never been to church or temple). He told me if that is the case then he cannot come.

I don't really understand what the big deal is about it is. Maybe it's b/c I am non-religious that I don't understand but I feel out of respect for my culture he should just wear it. Every other guy will be wearing it so it isn't like he will be the only one...and his reasons for not coming aren't that he doesn't feel comfy with my fam or whatever...his sole reason for not wanting to come is strictly b/c he has to wear a yarmulke.

Does anyone know if the yarmulke is definitely required for such a ceremony? Is there anything I can do or say that would make him comfortable with the situation? I need some advice. He did say I can ask someone else to come in his place, but I was hoping he would agree to come with me.

How are you three religions at the same tme, and your mother is Catholic and Protestant? There are some conflicting ideas there?

Crazyj1181 · #4 09-17-2007, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Hedgehog

How are you three religions at the same tme, and your mother is Catholic and Protestant? There are some conflicting ideas there?

her dad is catholic, her mom is protestant (my grandparents)

BleedingHeart · #5 09-17-2007, 07:09 AM

Just don't bring him then
You are also not "three different religions" if you are not religious. It's more about ethnicity and culture in your lineage that comes with people who are traditionally those religions...anyway, if they can't tolerate him not wearing one then he just shouldn't go.