Do you ever really get over your first love?

lung_black · #1 09-09-2007, 03:14 AM

So do you? Do you think you ever fully 100% "get over" your first love? Will there always be something there? Is it possible to ever have no feelings of love towards that person?

It's been a long time since my "first love" but i still feel something there for him like when ever i see him i start thinking about what it would be like if we got together again. I've seen other guys since who i have really really liked but this one guy has always been in the back of my mind. Does it ever well and truly go away?

knifeyou · #2 09-09-2007, 03:17 AM

I think a part of them will always be with you. Its normal to get over them to a degree but not fully because they were your first and everyone holds on to that for pretty much ever

desdemona · #3 09-09-2007, 03:39 AM

I think it entirely possible to "get over" your first love (as in: to lose your feelings for them and not care about associating with them again). People are subject to change, and so your feelings for someone can change accordingly. However, if it truly was your first love, then your attitude towards relationships is likely to have been (to an extent) influenced by that experience. While you may not have any feelings for your first love, you'll have learned from him/her. Your attitude toward relationships has been influenced by all of your lovers, and (assuming the importance of first impressions) your first love has a long-lasting influence.

discolexy · #4 09-09-2007, 04:45 AM

yeah, as much as you ever get over anybody

i mean there's still something there for all the boys i've loved.

Silvine · #5 09-09-2007, 07:24 AM

In my lifetime I have loved only two women out of all of them. The first was my highschool love. I was 15 and she was 14. We had a strictly platonic relationship but eventually when we did make love the relationship was over.

My second love was an acid dealer from the ghetto. She was 27 and I was 16, in a way I was on the rebound from my first love although I dated a rock chick inbetween the two. At the time I was fucking a goth, the acid dealer, and a blonde midget from my town.

Hell, love never dies.