So do you? Do you think you ever fully 100% "get over" your first love? Will there always be something there? Is it possible to ever have no feelings of love towards that person?

It's been a long time since my "first love" but i still feel something there for him like when ever i see him i start thinking about what it would be like if we got together again. I've seen other guys since who i have really really liked but this one guy has always been in the back of my mind. Does it ever well and truly go away?

I think a part of them will always be with you. Its normal to get over them to a degree but not fully because they were your first and everyone holds on to that for pretty much ever

I think it entirely possible to "get over" your first love (as in: to lose your feelings for them and not care about associating with them again). People are subject to change, and so your feelings for someone can change accordingly. However, if it truly was your first love, then your attitude towards relationships is likely to have been (to an extent) influenced by that experience. While you may not have any feelings for your first love, you'll have learned from him/her. Your attitude toward relationships has been influenced by all of your lovers, and (assuming the importance of first impressions) your first love has a long-lasting influence.

yeah, as much as you ever get over anybody

i mean there's still something there for all the boys i've loved.

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In my lifetime I have loved only two women out of all of them. The first was my highschool love. I was 15 and she was 14. We had a strictly platonic relationship but eventually when we did make love the relationship was over.

My second love was an acid dealer from the ghetto. She was 27 and I was 16, in a way I was on the rebound from my first love although I dated a rock chick inbetween the two. At the time I was fucking a goth, the acid dealer, and a blonde midget from my town.

Hell, love never dies.

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Yeah, I'm over him.

I wish him all the best, and sometimes I wonder how he's doing, but I could never be with him again.

He might have been my first love, but my current bf is my true love

I bloody hope so, I'm trying to at the moment. And he's making it very easy.

Everyone's individual situation is different obviously, but it's totally possible to get over your first love. I met my first love when I was 18 and we were together for a couple of years. I was completely head over heels, thought I was going to marry him, and when we broke up I thought I'd never in a million years get over it. Well it's many years later now, and I am SOOOO over it, it's not even funny. So it's totally possible.

The real question is can you love another the same way after meeting 'the one'?

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when me and my first love first broke up i really thought i was gonna die. that feeling lasted for a while, then vanished into something more like 'ill always want him back' but it disappeared with time. i would never wanna go back with him, and I dont really care about him as a person anymore. of course the first love feels like the greatest, coz of the innocence and everything new that happens, and all the sparks, but in all seriousness, it's more 'never getting over the loss of the innocence in relationships' more than the person themselves.

Well just like no two people are the same, I think no two relationships are ever the same. Each combination of people have a unique chemistry and dynamic. For that reason I'd never compare my current relationship to a past relationship. I'd just enjoy it and see where it leads.

But I don't think anyone should ever think a first love is the end-all be-all and nothing else will ever be as good. That's so untrue and so pessimistic.

il never get over my first love,as much of an ass he was.

my first love and i recently had coffee together, then grabbed a drink with his new girlfriend.

the whole time in the back ofmy head i was asking myself, "what did you find so attractive about this person? to be THAT into him?"

now i can consider him a friend but never, ever will he be a lover again. i have absolutely no romantic or sexual attraction anymore.

i never really got over mine.

but then we got back together, so it's ok.

I would say no.

The first guy I ever really feel for was one of my best friends at high school. My boyfriend at the time was massively jealous of him but I don't think I ever realised how strong my feelings for him were.

We got back in contact March last year, got together in August, and broke up yesterday.

Although I knew it wasn't working, I feel totally bereft. Even during the years we weren't in contact, I missed him, missed his company, and compared everyone else to him, unfavourably.

I've only ever been in love once and I'm still weirdly obsessed with him despite not really fancying him any more.

If that makes sense.

i think you hit the nail right on the head. i never really thought of it like that but i reckon it's true. thanks

Not until you drive a stake through their heart

I damn well hope so, since he is a giant cock and it makes me sad to think that the rest of my life will be overshadowed by HIM.

there's something called the dove effect? OR something...where when you see your first love you have physical reacations such as increased heart rate, sweaty palms, the whole nine. but I think it's possible to be emotionally over them...? I'm still with my first love, 13 years later, so I wouldn't know and I honestly think I'd never be 'over' him. but that's just me.