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Old 09-08-2007, 03:35 AM
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My bf is in love with ecstasy

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New years eve of 2005 was going to be a 'once off' because he wanted to try ecstasy. So it turned out not to be just once, and did it again a couple weeks later. He told me that night "I trust you to tell me when I should stop because I'm not sensible enough to know myself". So I said oh hey you're not likely to listen to me, but he assured me he would. So about a year on when I was becoming really concerned because he was doing it every weekend, and was starting to behave a bit differently, kind of distant and out of it. I also noticed he was having memory problems. I talked to him about it and he said he really thought he should stop and he would. About 2 months later, and he hadn't stopped. We started having arguments all the time about it and he kept promising that he wasn't going to do it again. After finding out once again that he hadn't actually stopped, we had a huge argument and were on the verge of breaking up. At that point I told him that I knew he wanted to stop, and that he was trying, but I wanted him to tell me if he slipped up. "Yes, I promise I will tell you." So now it is today, I found out from one of his friends that he did it again last night, he had every opportunity to tell me, and he didn't. I don't know what to do now.

We've been together for 3 years and this is the only issue we've ever had. We're good together, and I really, really love him.

So what the fuck do I do? Do I just wait for him to get over it and turn a blind eye? Help me I've run out of ideas

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Old 09-08-2007, 03:51 AM
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spike the E. sometimes when people overdose it gives them a reality check. or introduce him to meth.

or all of the above + dumping him.
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Old 09-08-2007, 04:29 AM
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Obviously, you need to confront him and tell him how his behavior is affecting you. Stress how hurt you are that he felt he had to keep things from you, and how worried you are about him. If he's keeping this from you, who knows what else he could be hiding? Suggest that your paranoia is causing you to experience doubts about him, and doubts about the relationship.

Make sure he is aware of the effects of ecstasy. He might change his tune when he hears of all the horror stories. A bad experience is usually enough to wake someone up to the dangers of whatever they're doing. So hopefully, if your efforts are unsuccessful, things will sort themselves out. Try not to let it come to that.

You need to make him realize his priorities. His health and your happiness is suffering at the expense of his e-taking. You wouldn't necessarily be giving him an ultimatum, but try to subtly imply IT'S EITHER ECSTASY OR ME.
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^^ ooh you're a fucking sneaky one, aren't you? haha.

dude, you cant force anyone to stop doing drugs. let it run its course. or if it's THAT bad and really a neverending issue, hopefully you'll know when it's time to break up over it? tough decisions but... it'll work itself out the way its supposed to. these things always do.
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Old 09-08-2007, 04:54 AM
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I'm sorry. That's a really tough spot to be in. Drugs are just awful and after all of this time you're seeing how he's changed and that's never good. I think tough love can help if you confront him but sometimes it backfires too. Is there any way you can keep him from being around the stuff? Maybe it's temptation.
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