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09-05-2007, 04:16 PM
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| | | friend gets jealous when I talk about my b/f Now please don't think I am one of those girls who talk nonstop about her relationship, I am not. But my friend (single) seems to get mad anytime I say anything cute or sweet my b/f does for me. Yet I have to listen to her drone on and on all day about either some great new guy she met or the latest way a guy did her dirty. She gets all ill with me if I have anything to say about MY relationship cause (as she full on admits) is jealous that I am in a rather stable and healthy long term relationship with a good guy and she isn't. I mean I understand in a way, but its not fair that I can't share my joy yet have to constantly listen to her drama. Any advice on how to handle it without me appearing bitchy? (again please note I am NOT one of those chicks who go on and on about her man all the time to her friends so thats not the issue). Any advice would be great. | 
09-05-2007, 05:03 PM
|  | grievous angel | | Join Date: Apr 2006
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| | people like that are never happy for you, and you should take that as a sign to beware of these people. if she is your true friend, she would have something positive to say or at least be like "i am happy for you... and jealous!  " but i'd watch out from someone like this... they are self-obsessed usually and take pleasure from other people being UNhappy, which you are not. therefore, i forsee this friendship coming to an end in the not so distant future. i have had experiences with people like this too often! run the other way! | 
09-05-2007, 05:39 PM
|  | blow yr mind | | Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: miami
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| | | She could have self esteem problems and feel like she can never get a boyfriend or something...she could be very sensitive when it comes to relationships.
I would say just don't mention your boyfriend at all. But tell her that if you don't talk about your boyfriend then you expect her to be quiet about her experiences with guys too. | 
09-05-2007, 06:48 PM
|  | Chairman~MouseyTongue | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Chairman Meow
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| | | remind her its good to be single too? pull a few fibs and tell her all the good points of not being in one? up her confidence. If that fails then tell her you'd rather not hear about her guys in exact same manner as she does to you so she'll see what she's being like as a friend. | 
09-05-2007, 11:31 PM
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Originally Posted by usesofsugar .. Yet I have to listen to her drone on and on all day about either some great new guy she met or the latest way a guy did her dirty... | she probably only says things like that because she thinks it will make you think she's having the time of her life, when really she's miserable that you have someone who loves you and respects you. sounds like she's really insecure and lonely.
i know its not really the same but i've just come out of a relationship and i know if someone was telling me how amazing their boyfriend is i'd be annoyed/jealous. its not really fair but just be patient? | 
09-07-2007, 04:14 PM
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| | | I've had this happen to me before, and riot_pixie is right, the friendship didn't last very long. Turned out she was a crazy bitch. | 
09-08-2007, 01:14 AM
|  | For all the right reasons | | Join Date: Apr 2007
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Originally Posted by riot_pixie people like that are never happy for you, and you should take that as a sign to beware of these people. if she is your true friend, she would have something positive to say or at least be like "i am happy for you... and jealous!  " but i'd watch out from someone like this... they are self-obsessed usually and take pleasure from other people being UNhappy, which you are not. therefore, i forsee this friendship coming to an end in the not so distant future. i have had experiences with people like this too often! run the other way! | This is true! Its always best to stay away from people like this. Nothing good can come from being around them | 
09-08-2007, 05:55 PM
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| | | great replies! Thanks! Yeah, lately I am noticing she is like this in lots of ways...not just about my b/f talk. Example: 2 days ago I told her I have a really bad cold and felt horrible, LITERALLY less than a minute later she says she has a call she has to take and I don't hear from her rest of day. NEXT day she calls me and without even asking how I am starts the conversation by saying SHE is sick. Like she didn't even acknowledge me or how I feel at all. I think you guys are right....some people can only handle a conversation/relationship being all about them. It's driving me crazy and I have decided to phase her out of my life. I have to rid my life of all the toxic people, lol. (emotional vampires!) | 
09-14-2007, 03:30 PM
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Originally Posted by usesofsugar Now please don't think I am one of those girls who talk nonstop about her relationship, I am not. But my friend (single) seems to get mad anytime I say anything cute or sweet my b/f does for me. Yet I have to listen to her drone on and on all day about either some great new guy she met or the latest way a guy did her dirty. She gets all ill with me if I have anything to say about MY relationship cause (as she full on admits) is jealous that I am in a rather stable and healthy long term relationship with a good guy and she isn't. I mean I understand in a way, but its not fair that I can't share my joy yet have to constantly listen to her drama. Any advice on how to handle it without me appearing bitchy? (again please note I am NOT one of those chicks who go on and on about her man all the time to her friends so thats not the issue). Any advice would be great. | I was in a similar situation but i was the single friend. I wasn't jealous per se, but i did get pissed when she talked about her boyf only b/c I set them up and i asked her to set me up and she didn't when I went out of my way to set them up...so i felt I was right in being angry.
I would just not bring up your guy unless she asks how he's doing or whatever. You know great he is and I am sure he knows, but if her friendship is important to you, I would just keep quiet about it. And yeah she should understand and be happy for you b/c she's your friend, but girls are bitches...what can i say?
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