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Old 09-02-2007, 03:38 AM
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Last week I spent it following NIN. On Monday I met up with four people from the internet and unfortunately I didnt click with these two women. I couldnt hold a conversation with them. Im shy and quiet so I think I find these sort of things to be more nerve racking then others will. But these two women were a personality clash with me. I felt like they didnt like me because I was about 5-10 years younger and it just didnt go well. They jumped in on my conversations, werent bothered by me speaking and I basically only had NIN in common with them. I only had to deal with them for 24 hours because as soon as I got to the first venue for NIN I met these americans who were lovely and then my friend came and joined us later. The next show I just hanged out with my friend.

Now this isnt a big deal is it? you meet people and you get along with them or you dont. This happens on the net and inperson interactions. When I got home I went onto the net and spoke out how I found these two to be cold but I didnt put their names in. However they worked it out and they viewed me saying they were cold as a personal attack and also that I was taking the piss out of one of theirs laugh - one of them had a donkey type laugh , seriously it was bad but I didnt write anything about it. They responded by saying they didnt have anything negative or positive to write about me and Im confused by what that could be.

I only regret speaking out for one reason and I know I sound a cunt for being like this. I only regret it because if I go see NIN in the future I worry they may attack me in the crowd. I hope they just ignore me. Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut and been nice as I could have used them in the future for NIN advantages but I didnt. So yeah I know that sounds awful of me to write and this shouldnt bother me but Its my insecurities that doesnt let me be strong willed as I used to be.

Meeting up from the net is cool. Ive met some cool people from the net - some are cool people from here - and luckly I havent met any psychopaths etc. But when it goes wrong its fucking annoying..anyone else had bad experiences ? how did they work out? did you see the said person ever again?
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Old 09-02-2007, 03:44 AM
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I have met up with people from the internet before and I also now fear being attacked in the crowd at NIN gigs. It's just not worth it really.
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Old 09-02-2007, 03:46 AM
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wow that really sucks. i am sorry to hear about your experience.

i have had 7 internet meetups in my life, all of them in the past month and they were all great. i got along really good with the people and had loads of fun.

what is it with NIN fans, from what i read here it sounds like there are some real assholes?
or does that happen with other bands too?
(i only had one concert meetup so far, it was at a tegan and sara gig last week and it went well too. but honestly, you can't really go wrong with tegan and sara fans, they are all really nice haha)
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what is it with NIN fans, from what i read here it sounds like there are some real assholes?
or does that happen with other bands too?
limp bizkit fans, i bet theyre all really cool
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limp bizkit fans, i bet theyre all really cool
lolz
i had totally forgotten limp bizkit existed.
or wait, do they still exist? as a band i mean? any albums planned or anything?
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i had totally forgotten limp bizkit existed.
or wait, do they still exist? as a band i mean? any albums planned or anything?
haha im not sure i fortunatly lost track after fred durst wore a blue suit and showed off his bald head in the my way video, so terrible.

although last night i read that he was in a sex tape with a man. i dont know anything about that, but anyone who does, feel free to elaborate
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i had totally forgotten limp bizkit existed.
or wait, do they still exist? as a band i mean? any albums planned or anything?
We can but hope.
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although last night i read that he was in a sex tape with a man. i dont know anything about that, but anyone who does, feel free to elaborate
oh i second that
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wow that really sucks. i am sorry to hear about your experience.

i have had 7 internet meetups in my life, all of them in the past month and they were all great. i got along really good with the people and had loads of fun.

what is it with NIN fans, from what i read here it sounds like there are some real assholes?
or does that happen with other bands too?
(i only had one concert meetup so far, it was at a tegan and sara gig last week and it went well too. but honestly, you can't really go wrong with tegan and sara fans, they are all really nice haha)
I think its with all bands...sometimes hole fans could be quite bitchy but from my NIN gigs the crowds have always been bitchy..dont know why they just all think they are soo too cool for anyone who doesnt have black hair?
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welllllll i've never had a bad internet meetup, and i had 3 last week! seriously i've been to millions.

i dunno. dye your hair black and maybe you won't get stabbed?
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Unless they're highly unstable, I can't see why they'd attack you for calling them 'cold'. Is that the worst thing you've ever said about anyone?
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it has to be said

this is what you get for liking shit music
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They jumped in on my conversations, werent bothered by me speaking
god i fucking hate it when people do that to me. I FUCKING HATE IT. it is the rudest fucking thing.
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welllllll i've never had a bad internet meetup, and i had 3 last week! seriously i've been to millions.

i dunno. dye your hair black and maybe you won't get stabbed?
Ah but these bitches had blonde hair...
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I think its with all bands...sometimes hole fans could be quite bitchy but from my NIN gigs the crowds have always been bitchy..dont know why they just all think they are soo too cool for anyone who doesnt have black hair?
LOL music snobs!!
Have you seen High Fidelity?

You. Are. Lovely. I'm terrible at meeting people and you were the first person at the 'cl signing' who I felt comfortable with. I walked in and asked in front of everyone if anyone was from kr and they were silent (they warmed-up later and pretty much ALL were from k-fukking-r) so I sat down alone, then we spoke. Maybe your shyness seemed to come accross as aloof-ness to them? I think you're a sweetie. I have a v good buddy who is a NIN fan and there were times when she'd run a mile rather than say hello to a stranger, she's also been spat at for her black/purple dreds, spider web morticia skirts, piercings, tattoos and 9inch booties - if you don't fit the same 'look' you might be seen as an evil 'other' so I guess they'd do the primal fight/flight, either be defensive or leg it/ignor? I often think it's these people who are the most sensitive and it's finding the right buttons. Maybe they were unsure/scared of you, if you looked slightly different, or maybe they are just plain elitist assholes?

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