Basically... my boyfriend (who this time I've been with for 10 months) just told me about this whole history with some other girl who I've never met.

The story is: She lives an hour away, he dated her before but cheated on her because of the distance... He's always just referred to this girl as "a friend" from his childhood. And has often talked about visiting this girl and spending the night at some video game place with her.

Like I've seen myspace messages he writes to her and he always signs them with "I love you" and he told me it was an "as a friend" type of "I love you"

But I just found out all the story with her and how apparently she has gone between absolutely hating him and being in love with him. And he apparently still has liked her as more than a friend. And he admitted to me that when we argue he thinks about her and would seriously considering going with her if she lived closer.

And the first time we were together he broke up with me, I didn't know why at the time and we hadn't been dating long so I didn't look into it much- but it was because he thought he could get back with her, but she rejected him.

And at first I was like "Well screw this then, I deserve better" but the thing is before... everything was really good and this is my longest relationship.

And now he's writing me poems and pulling this suicidal bullshit.

Should I give him another (this would be the 3rd) chance?

no. ditch him fast and never look back.
my ex was like this and we were together for two years. i was his distraction from the girl that broke his heart. i only ended up hurt in the end. you cant change someone like that and its not worth trying.

Well. I broke up with him.

I'm going to be seeing him tomorrow though... Hopefully I can stay strong.

keep your head up.

well let me see I just started seeing a guy... we both went into it pretty fast so we still have our own histories to compete with and we've been honest right from the beginning that we had feelings for other people when we began seeing each other.. we have worked through that to the point where yeah we still see these people around and love them to death but we don't want to be with them because we preffer each other...

just because a guy has history with a friend doesn't mean he's going to leave you and dumping him is just paranoia! Especially so soon after he told you the story, you should have stuck around to see how that would unfold. He told you obviously because he trusted you, that you would obviously be big enough to at least stick by him.. it's just a little bit of fucking baggage.... everyone has it and everyone has a past with other people.... you'll never get yourself into something decent if you don't learn that FAST!

no fucking 3rd time!




WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT SHIT!!


Have some dignity.

this bit just screams NO.

don't settle for a relationship where you're not the first and only choice. ever.

diiiiick heeeaaad!!

Have nothing more to do with him!

Run...RUN!!! You're number TWO! If you can deal with being second best, then go ahead with it all. Otherwise, RUN!

Get rid of him.

Tell him you're washing your hair
for the next few years.

haha best idea!

Personally, I can't understand how people can without feeling like they're being used.

never ever settle for being second best. it really isn't on. if you come to accept it you'll always see yourself that way and thats notttt good (trust me, i know!)

Omg, NO. Second chances are bullshit, 3rd chances are just SHAMEFUL ON YOUR BEHALF.

exactly. fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, that makes me the jew.

No, you have to just tell him to fuck off. Because even if they never date again, the whole thing is just going to be hanging over your head and you'll always feel like second best. 10 months isn't like, THAT long, so if you're already having issues, it isn't worth it. Good luck though

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