what do you expect from your friends?

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To be able to hold flowing convosations about almost anything. To not feel any awkward moments around each other, as i do with so many other people. To have laughter. To come home from work, hang out somewhere warm, and have a nice cold beer together.

to not lie. to not fuck me up on purpose.

otherwise not much

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When I awoke, the Dire Wolf
Six hundred pounds of sin
Was grinning at my window
All I said was "Come on in".
Grateful Dead

yeah, a lack of awkwardness is important, even if we're just lounging around not saying anything. also, my two best friends and i all have bad mood swings (not aggressive or anything) so to put up with that from each other and be understanding about it. i guess mostly i just expect a balance. so listening to each other instead of one perosn being the therapist or compromising on what to do together instead of one person being the boss.


the three of us all being best friends with each other is ridiculous though. not so much with me because i'm fairly easy going, but one of them is always mad at the other, so i expect them to not expect me to take sides.

would you expect them to back you up?
would you expect them not to betray you if it meant lying to another friend?

I am having a bit of a funny time with out of my friends at the moment.

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I wouldn't expect them to back me up at all times - i hate it when politics come into friendships, and have been in the middle of a few rifts before. It sucks.

I just would like my friends to be there for me, and put up with my ranting (when I rant), and to trust me (which they do). So yeah.

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well basically i espect them to be there for me - when i am down but also when something really great is happening, that they are there and are happy with me just like i am there for them.

and also, over the past months i have realised how important it is that old time friends (that you have known for a long time) accept the way your personality might change when you grow up and not try to keep you the way you were when you were 14.

i expect honesty from my friends. and the more blunt the better!

also i expect my friends to be supportive when i need it, to accept my support when i offer it. to not pressure me to drink when i'm trying to quit for awhile, to accept the decisions i make so long as they aren't self-destructive or destructive to others.

and of course to have fun with.

hate out of association is ANNOYING. my friends try to drag me into the drama sometimes but i refuse to dislike a person because my friend doesn't like them. laaaame

i would expect them to back me in as that i would expect them to tell me the truth and support me into understanding the truth.

i would expect them to not betray me which means if i dont want someone knowing something about me then you dont have the right to tell them. you do however have the right to say"im not going to tell you that" to whomever.

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When I awoke, the Dire Wolf
Six hundred pounds of sin
Was grinning at my window
All I said was "Come on in".
Grateful Dead

i expect them to be decent... but they are all assholes!

To be honest i expect a lot. Because I feel that i give a lot.
But if they can't do that, then loyalty, honesty and communication are enough for me.

i just want to be able to hang out and not feel crappy when i'm with them, and for them to accept me. it also helps if they make an effort to invite me places instead of me just inviting them everywhere.

if they betray me iid get frustrated, but i usually forgive them depending on circumstances.

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Maybe you could send him like a coat hanger or soup mix in the mail with a post it-
"when you paint with your eyes closed, you never become picasso, you just become an ironic narcissist with uncomfortable shades".
Throwing people off is thrilling.

-ktlr

I expect them to stick with me and help me when I need them, not bail as soon as I'm cranky! So long as they are loyal and trustworthy that willl usually ignite respect and friendship from me....
Oh and they can't be fucking losers who won't go outside and get along with everyone else...


I live by the quote "friends are the family you choose"
The last person who fucked me over is still trying to suck up now... i'm not a person to get in the bad with, I can make someones life very difficult in this city!