so i posted awhile back about my boyfriend (i'm a guy, by the way - to clear up any confusion) who just isn't that interested in sex.
we've recently been talking about our relationship, and whether it will continue... lots of different shit has come up.
i've said i'm sex-deprived but it hasn't seemed to matter.
am i a horrible person if i sneak something on the side while we're sort of "working it out" or breaking up?
which of those two we're doing is yet to be determined...

tell him you're going out to bone other people, then you don't have to worry about this shit.

You're a disgusting faggot.

I would totally screw around behind his back, though. Maybe even bring him home some herpes as a going-away gift

i know i am

i think i already gave him herpes when we first met... heh

Yes. Cheating is intolerable, regardless of whatever difficulties you may be experiencing in the relationship. If you want to have sex so badly, either wait until after ye are broken up, or tell him that you're going to have sex with other people. If it's not ok with your partner, either don't do it or break up with him. In any case, your willingness to break up with your boyfriend for sexual reasons shows that you don't care that much and probably shouldn't be in this relationship. My advice to you would be to thank your lucky stars that someone like that ever showed an interest in you, break up with the guy and hope that he finds someone who deserves him.

is he hot? what are his interests? i'll take him if push comes to shove

That is a great reply.

I agree with you 100%. If I could rep you, I would

Cheating is never okay in my Book.

is it okay to cheat if you get way too much sex? can i have someone on the side who just wants to hold my hand and isn't interested in my funny places?

unless he's willing to take an aphrodisiac and really do something about it, Im afraid a sexdrive isnt something you can fix easily. especially if its natural and not due to stress, time ect. I don't really see it working unless he's willing to compromise for you X amount of times a month.

If you cant control your urges, you must break up with him first. Its just the way it goes. I know life isnt all we like but tough shit really, he hasn't done anything horrible to you so he deserves a bit of decencey in return.

ok, this is a reasonable reply, and I appreciate it, Bleeding Heart. He hasn't done anything horrible to speak of, except for ignored my pleas for the last year and a half, while i've been patient through all the stuff going on in his life.

as for desdemona - I wasn't asking for a tirade including assumptions about my relationship, which you know nothing about. so fuck you. a sufficient "no, I think cheating is intolerable no matter what" would have been fine, and I would have really taken that into consideration.
But you spat out a bunch of bullshit you know nothing about, and I'd negative rep you if I could cause you're a fucking bitch

Would you be able to stop if you sorted things out and got back together and he was still unhorny 4eva? Doubt it somehow. Cheating is never tolerable.

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break up with him if it's that bad, then you can have as much sex with as many people as you want guilt free.
cheating isn't ok.

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cheaters even offend me you twat!
Do not do that to him unless he says it's ok for you to get sex elsewhere which very few people will say yes too...
If he is making you happy mentally then have him as a friend sure but if you cheat on him you'll lose his friendship, you'll lose alot of respect from alot of people even though they won't tell you not to mention the feeling of dissapointment....
It is cruel to be kept in a relationship with barely any sex but it's even crueler to cheat on someone and be a slimey backstabbing lying cunt who has maggots squirming for your arsehole!

Cheating is never acceptable. You will end up regretting it if you truly care about him beyond sex. Perhaps take a break and date other guys and see what happens? Let him know how you are feeling about that and be clear with him. Let him know that it has gotten to the point where you want to sleep with other people. Sex is an important part of a relationship despite what some people might say, and you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't fulfill your needs in every way.

thanks for your input. i appreciate it.
I'm not going to go elsewhere for sex at this point... I haven't to this date, and have decided not to. I know if he found out he would be crushed, so it wouldn't really do a lot of good..
Oh well, my hands are capable.

sex is the barometer of a healthy relationship. wtf is wrong with him that he doesnt want to suck some cock, at least?

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Cheating is wrong no matter what the circumstances. If you're unfulfilled in your relationship then get out of it. My ex cheated on me, and i tried to rationalise it with "well i was depressed and had no sex drive" but really, thats no excuse. If he wasnt happy with what he (wasnt getting) he should have just been straight with me and ended it.