my ex tried to kill himself with his car two nights ago because i broke up with him :-/
how do you handle a situation like that?i mean i feel bad that he felt like that was the answer to his problems and i triggered that but at the same time :-/ i dont feel bad because it was his decision to do something that stupid.
i did say things to escalate the situation but this was after he made threats against all my guy friends. i didnt think he was being serious when he said if i didnt want to be with him that he wasnt going to live anymore.
but, this is a pretty serious situation.
lucky he didnt die. but he ended up in the hospital and now is looking at state jail time because he was drunk and this is his third dwi in the last 6 months.
i just dont even know what to think or feel about the whole situation. i dont feel like its my fault but i feel like i should feel remorseful anyway?
but i really cant help it. i dont want to be with him.
what would you say would be the most graceful way to go about dealing with this?
the whole ordeal makes me pretty sick to my stomach.

It is isn't yours to deal with. You said it yourself, he made the decision to do this not you. He needs to sort himself out. Just move on knowing there's nothing that you could have done for him. Attempting to kill yourself is not the ordinary way to try to get over a breakup - if that's all he has in his toolbox to deal with rejection or bad emotions then he needs to sort that out - not your problem. And attempted suicides are mostly a really manipulative way to get attention in these kinds of situations so I would stay away and ignore it if I were you.

lol.

you wish, dotty.

I wish mine would do that... and succeed!!

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no, actually unlike you im not that twacked in the head.
oh and uh BAITING?
yeah.

Its so gross when people attempt to blackmail you into a relationship.

This is your fault. It is his. You didn't tell him to get in the car, or however he tried to kill himself. That was HIS decision alone. Maybe he didn't really intend to kill himself, just get your attention? A way to sympathise your back into the relationship?

He obviously needs help. Keep your head up!

he could drive a horse and cart off a bridge!

oh you mean timmer

someone i really totally cared about really DID kill themselves not that long ago, and i felt real twisted up about. we both loved each other pretty equally - and i was totally surprised when she offed herself.

what can you do? people are all different.
guilt feelings are always ALWAYS a lie and a distraction from what's real, though.

Tell him he needs help. Seriously.
Firstly tell him as a friend and if that doesn't work.
Blackmail him back by saying it'll only make you hate him if he tries that shit again.
That boy needs therapy

Bit of hessian sack into the Danube action.

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i care about the kid but he's got all of nothing going for him. he's 26, still lives with his dad, doesnt have a job, and cant drive because his liscence is suspended. and he's now facing jail time. the only thing he had going for him was his djing but it looks like he's even throwing that away. he needs more help than i could ever give him. he just became too overwhelming and intense for even me. and im a pretty intense person to handle sometimes.
i think what really pushed him over the edge is i ended up getting back with chris. he knew he couldnt compete with that. ive loved chris since we were kids. :-/
i do hope he gets help but at this point i just dont think its healthy for either one of us if i stay in his life.

he needs help

sometimes its good to have a person who is intense and will understand your intensity but in the long run those kind of people......you just need somebody less intense to balance things out and help up lighten up, not to mention, he lived kinda far away.

He should talk it out to a councelor even though I genuinely think they'd probably be full of shit but the ones that don't say much and let you do the talking. I just hope if he talked it out with someone like that, he'll come over some revelation to find a new meaning in his life, to aim for something, otherwise I just don't see him going back on track.

he's one of those people who has all the potential in the world but he feels like he needs other people to make it come shining through. i dont want to be someones excuse to live and i dont want to be someones crutch for greatness. its not fair to me :-/
i dont know if he will ever get his life on track tho. i would love to see that happen but its kind of one of those, you cant teach an old dog new tricks type deals. he's done nothing but dj drum and bass for the last 6 years, never really had a steady job etc so he's kind of dug himself into a really deep hole. its just sad that he felt like ending his life was the only way out.

What everyone else said -plus, thats a really shitty thing to do :/

If he wanted to die, he'd be dead - this is real attention seeking :/

You don't need to dig him out - but, point him to a good doctor etc, as a friend - then forget about it? :S