so uh..

primal muse · #1 08-20-2007, 12:58 AM

my ex tried to kill himself with his car two nights ago because i broke up with him :-/
how do you handle a situation like that?i mean i feel bad that he felt like that was the answer to his problems and i triggered that but at the same time :-/ i dont feel bad because it was his decision to do something that stupid.
i did say things to escalate the situation but this was after he made threats against all my guy friends. i didnt think he was being serious when he said if i didnt want to be with him that he wasnt going to live anymore.
but, this is a pretty serious situation.
lucky he didnt die. but he ended up in the hospital and now is looking at state jail time because he was drunk and this is his third dwi in the last 6 months.
i just dont even know what to think or feel about the whole situation. i dont feel like its my fault but i feel like i should feel remorseful anyway?
but i really cant help it. i dont want to be with him.
what would you say would be the most graceful way to go about dealing with this?
the whole ordeal makes me pretty sick to my stomach.

Hedgehog · #2 08-20-2007, 01:25 AM

It is isn't yours to deal with. You said it yourself, he made the decision to do this not you. He needs to sort himself out. Just move on knowing there's nothing that you could have done for him. Attempting to kill yourself is not the ordinary way to try to get over a breakup - if that's all he has in his toolbox to deal with rejection or bad emotions then he needs to sort that out - not your problem. And attempted suicides are mostly a really manipulative way to get attention in these kinds of situations so I would stay away and ignore it if I were you.