ok i dated this guy for about 5 months last year. I broke up with him because I had to get stuff straight with my life. I told him a couple of days ago that I wasn't really over him but I didn't want to get into a relationship. Today he called me and kept begging me to take him back. I kept telling him the reasons why I didn't want to get into a relationship and date again. I told him to give me time to think about it and just let me get my life straight. And then he had to tell me that he doesn't want to feel like he doesn't want to wake up in the morning again. Then he told me he would give me time to get stuff straight and then told me "not to take to long"

I'm so stressed out..I don't want to hurt him but I don't want to really date either..what should I do?

can i have him? he sounds nice.

you sound like a messed up dramatic bitch, stop fucking with the poor boy.

whatever you do don't fuck with him. mainly because karma is an effing bitch and cos he sounds nice. and why'd you tell him that if you didn't want him back? that part i don't understand.

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I don't understand this either. Why didn't you just wait until you were ready and then tell him? Telling him you don't want to be with him but you haven't gotten over him but you still don't want to be with him... he must feel like your teasing him. Be careful with how you handle this because you could end up being the one hurt. Just get your shit together then go get him. If he cares for you he'll most likely wait for you

Exactly what everyone else said. Why would you tell you weren't over him if you didn't want him back? How long does it take you to get your shit together? Maybe if told him he could help you, thats what couples do, help eachother. Except for weird ones that beat one another. But thats a whole different thread.

No I am not a messed up dramatic bitch. Even though he is a nice person he was a bit...obsessive in the past. I dunno, I thought I was ready to date him again and all this shit started happening. I don't know why I told him I still liked him because the next day I woke up and was like..what the fuck did I tell him! I'm just not a really great relationships person at all and I totally regret telling him that. I don't mean to sound like I'm teasing him and leading him on but...I dunno. I guess it goes back to that saying that there's no one like your first love. Forgive me if I see sort of this crazy bitch. You guys have to understand that I'm going through alot and I'm not making exactly the best choices right now.

You could always explain to him that your fucked up about relationships. Also about the stuff your going through. KTLR had it right, help eachother through it

Just be straight with him. it is all you can do. Don't buy into that guilt bullshit. When he says "don't take too long", it means he won't wai very long. So you need to decide if you will regret not getting back with him when you had the chance

Thanks you guys.

Just be honest and say that you're not interested in him, life sorted or not. You'll be doing him a favour. Don't waste his time and don't lead him on. Right now he's hoping you'll go back to him, while you're clearly not up for that. So just cut the crap and tell it like it is.