So I come home from being away to find my ex talking to this girl who is the complete polar opposite of me, immature, and has almost nothing in common with him. She is pretty, but she looks like she is five. Why would he be doing this? Is he lieing to himself; trying to keep his mind off me by being with someone like her? Do you think he's aware that I am aware of this and doing this to make me angry? She is also extremely bubbly and that is very strange for him to be into a girl like this.

maybe he just likes her?

yep. the obvious.

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then she dances skirt swaying in the half-light she dances white blossom in the black sky
'I need new clothes', she thinks, 'new skin, a mind I can bear to live in'.

yep, cause y'know, a guy's taste could NEVER change and they only EVER like one type of gal, EVER!! Who cares? He's your ex for a reason.

FUCK him. . . you should just move on to the next and NOT worry about him or this chick. You'll drive yourself mad,a nd he'd probably get off on it.

Yeah, I'm already going mad. It's not worth it I know. Plus, I don't see how they could work out anyway when they have nothing in common on so many levels. I'm sure he's already getting off on it.

why are you even asking this question? the answer is: who gives a fuck. you're broken up. if he's into some weirdo now that's his problem. find a new man. stop thinking about this.

chill out you guys, this was her first love and that takes a while to get over.

cunty, doll, i know this has still gotta be hard for you. but im going to be honest sweets. i think he might be just trying new things. sometimes that means connecting with different types of people.
maybe you could try and meet some new people too? it might help you take your mind off of it all. pm me if you need to talk <3

He does probably like her. You should try to distance yourself and not worry too much what hes doing though. Its only going to hurt you to hang on and get involved with what hes doing now. Try to have fun and not think about him or her or anything else he has going on. You won't care so much later who hes with. Whether it works out or not.

First of all, consider why this is bothering you. Do you want to get back with this guy, or don't you? If you don't want to get back with him, this behavior shouldn't cause you any personal anxiety. If he's lying to himself, let him get hurt. If he's not, good for him. You need to establish exactly your hopes for this guy and what your feelings are towards him, in order to banish your anxiety.

It's most important that you appear entirely unaffected and indifferent to your ex's behavior. Keep in mind that he is, in fact, your ex and you do not want to be with him. Take your mind off the situation by engaging in things that interest you, socializing and considering your own future in relationships. If he is doing this just to piss you off, let him continue. He'll only end up causing himself unhappiness, and you'll emerge looking like the better person.

actually this wasn't my first but 2nd hits just as hard somtimes.....

oh and I have been trying....I am aware there are other fish in the sea but you know...of course I'm still distraught...

Thank you so much. I am socializing and doing my own thing and everything, but even when I do happen to get him off my mind, I'll dream about him that night. It's near ridiculousness but then again it has only been a month. I do want to be with him actually, that is why I am so upset, but that doesn't mean I'm still keeping a watch for anyone else who could be a potential lover...deep down I hope he gets hurt; immature I know.