I just reunited with a male friend of mine. We were never romantic and I don't have any interest in being with him that way...ever. But he's a great friend. I know he has a little crush on me, but he's never crossed the line and has been very respectfull that way.

However.... since he's come back into my life, he calls way too much. Im a very introverted girl and don't really care for phone calls. My girls don't even call that much. When he leaves a message, he say's "Call me". I don't like being told to call anyone unless it's important. He also has been very persistant about getting together. (He live's a few hours away) He does it the same way, "come down next weekend" or "I'm going to come up there in a month so we can hang out." Its a bit too abbrasive for my liking and pretty annoying. We've been freinds for so long and I don't want to upset him. How should I handle this?

Be honest. Just let him know your uncomfortable with the way hes been since he got back. That your really glad to see him and hang out with him again but sometimes its alittle too much to handle. I'm sure if you explain whats wrong he'll understand.

I have a friend like this.. she has no reason to call.. she just calls and leaves 100 messages telling me to call her.. of course I don't but still it's fucking annoying. I just tend to ignore it.. not sure what else to do. If I tell her she will have a massive sooky hissyfit.

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that sounds fucking annoying. i'd feel sorry for him were it not for this:

i would just get rid of him if i were you, but then again i have very little tolerance for people like this. you could make it seem like youve moved on and too busy for him now.

i had a friend who would call a million times per day and it got a bit much by the time we had both left school. she basically treated me like a brick wall to sound all her problems off of. it was the last straw when didn't invite me to her birthday even though we'd been friends for almost 10 years & i had to listen to all her crap the whole time. when i told her i didnt want to be friends with her anymore she didnt even understand what she'd done to piss me off

I had a friend like that and I did tell her to stop calling so much. She had a an extremely rational hissyfit and since then I haven't talked to her in about a year (for other reasons as well).

oh i HATE it when people call me too much. i'm not a big fan of phone calls except with a very few select people, so calling me too much is one of the best ways to really fuck me off.

i hate it even more when someone texts me and then texts me again saying "er, hello?" if i havent replied within ten minutes. it REALLY fucks me off. like, how arrogant to assume there is nothing that i could be doing that's more important or interesting than replying to your text IMMEDIATELY.

anyway metalkpretty, i think you just need to tell him he's calling too much. otherwise (if you're anything like me) you'll just start really resenting him for it and thinking OH GREAT, MY STALKER AGAIN whenever he rings, and then the friendship will be ruined because you won't be able to stop thinking of him in that way.

YEAH ICK!!

I have had that problem with a guy friend as well. He was just a dude I went to shcool with, we ran into e/o and exchanged numbers.

MISTAKE!!!

That fucker called/TM'd/MySpaced me non-stop, it got to the point where I just call blocked ass, and blocked him from MS.

That sounds mean, but the dude sounds like a STALKER to me, lol. He is obssesed with you more than likely.....or really lonley.

Good luck

there's no polite way to tell him
He will always take it the wrong way
Just learn the fine art of not calling back.
If he asks, you "forgot" or "didnt get around to it" or "I had nothing to say"

the only time i want phone calls is if its to say hey lets hang out. this would drive me batty.

If you continue pretending to be busy every time he calls, he'll get the picture and stop calling you so much under the awareness that you're probably busy.

Eh..... that's kind of passive-aggressive...

I think you should be honest and speak with words instead of actions. Otherwise, he may think you don't like him or something. When really it's his BEHAVIOR that you don't like.

I'm the same way and have lost several friends that were like this because I never answered their calls or called them back.

I think I am the sort of person who calls/text/emails too much in friendships..I dont mean to though. but if someone told me to stop doing it I think i woudl be ok with it. good luck.

I think you should just explain to him that you think it's a bit too much. It's better to do that than ignore him, because he probably doesn't realise that he's annoying you, and it's something that could be easily sorted.

I'm the opposite...my man usually calls me once a day, sometimes not even...and while I know he loves me, I wish he would call more. My ex used me call me 22x a day and I actually loved it.

lol, but yeah...I don't mind the phone calls. I guess I just always have some silly little stupid thing to talk about.

But this is just a friend... not an other half.

I think do the assertive thing, say that you need some time to yourself as well as to see your other friends.

Sounds to me like he hasn't given-up the idea of trying to be more than friends with you.

Ugh, yeah that really pisses me off too. I've had a couple of people do that to me. First they'd text me something, and five minutes later when I didn't reply, they texted "hello?" and then five minutes after that, "hello??? are u there?" then five minutes after THAT, "fine ignore me". And since I had been busy and away from my phone that whole time, I come back to like five texts in a row. I didn't hesistate to yell at my friend not to do that ever again. I told him ONE text is enough, and if I don't answer it, then fuckin wait until I do.