So... I've wanted to ask for advice on this topic, but I don't know many people anymore, because I just moved to this area after being on the road with my mom for a while. Long story.

So, here's the situation, my mom's a truck driver, but she got hurt, so for the past 8 months we've been living (thank God!) on virtually no income. So, we have no car.

I was dating this guy, and he was a total ass hole to me, but via his friend I met this (at the time) amazing guy that seemed to have everything: looks, sense of humor, intelligence and he seemed to be caring (a Cancer, I'm a Pisces). So about a week after I meet him and we hang out twice and talk a couple times in addition to that, he kisses me and we decide to date. He tells me that he cannot guarantee that everything will work out (because he lives 30 miles away and neither of us have cars, but we hang around when our friends go to each other's cities), but that he'll try. So I broke up with my ass hole boyfriend, and we're finally official. Two weeks later and he'd rather go "dumpster diving" with his friends in Skiatook that he sees everyday in school than go to the Renaissance Fair with me all day on Saturday and doesn't want me taking the bus to the venue in my city that he's going to tomorrow (because it would be nighttime and "unsafe"), but he won't see if his friend will give me a ride. Now, yes, this is petty. But he also goes so back and forth between emotional & caring and aloof & annoyed with my emotions. We've only talked to each other the equivilant of every other day for the past week or so. The problem is, I like him, and if he was simply more accepting of my feelings and put a tiny bit of effort into the relationship, he would be awesome!

Again, I'll say this, this is petty, I know people on this forum have real relationship problems and this is nothing in contrast to those, but it does hurt my feelings everyday to know that I put effort into this and he doesn't care to in the slightest.

Ugh. I feel so emo.

Anyway, the question is: I like this guy, and I go back and forth (with his moods) between thinking he likes me and I annoy him, so, considering these things, do you think I should give it more than the very small 2 weeks that I have, or should I break it off?

Also, any advice on how to deal with being in a relationship that is shifty like this? Or how to detatch myself somewhat?

Sorry this is so silly.

well yeah i'd probably give it more than two weeks if it's something you think you really want.

two weeks isn't very long at all.

but lemme ask you this, do you see this changing on it's own?

you should talk to him about how you're feeling.

speaking from personal experience - if you're back and forth between thinking he likes you and thinking you annoy him - this issue will be the cause of problems in your relationship if you don't address it.

do you really want to be emotionally detached though?

you might as well just be dead.

I totally see where you're coming from. 2 weeks definitely isn't very long. The only thing I am worried about is that I'm requiring too much of him, like I'm rushing things along, but as far as I'm concerned, relationships shouldn't just be seeing each other and sharing a little affection every week or 2. So I'm torn between my feelings of relationships and the fact that he's never been in a real relationship before (he's a year younger than I am), and not wanting to rush him.

I think I will follow your advice completely, and just talk about it, but lightly. I think I'll just ask him if he's avoiding me, or what he wants out of this in the short term, then accept whatever he says and give it time. I think this is all just a byproduct of my Pisces "kill 'em before they hurt me" ideal. Ugh. I do this way too often.

Thank you very much for the advice, it seems like the right thing to do.

I think you should just chill out a little bit. You talk with him every other day, that is actually a lot. Asking him if he is avoiding you may drive him further away. Just give him (and yourself) a little bit of space, that way you can step back and look at the situation and figure out what you really want.

I can see where you're coming from. I think I'll talk to him about the situation a little bit, not a lot, and not make a big deal about it. The only thing I am wondering is, as a very impressionable person, I'm trying to actually hold my identity recently, and is it okay to... I don't know... Ignore the fact that I want a relationship where effort is put in from both sides?

I don't know, I wish I could find a medium between being whiney about things, and just giving in and letting people do whatever they want. I'm trying!!

I have definitely decided that I'm going to deal with this is whatever way I can though, and I'll minimize my upset feelings about him being distant.