okay so
my bf and i have been dating for 14 months
this girl he has been friends with for like 2 years lives 3 hours away, but she goes to school here, so she is only here during the school year
so for the 3 months of the summer, she is pretty far away
she came to visit on the 4th of july, she will be back for school september 1st
the bf says he is going to take a bus and visit her. he estimates this will cost $100. now this is more money than he has ever spent on me, probably even cumulatively. this money will not include whatever he has to spend while visiting for "a few days", which could be substantial as she lives in the chicago burbs. which he claims to hate

now what i dont get is, why does he have to go visit her for a few days when she will be back in less than a month? why is he spending so much money to see her when he would NEVER do that for me?

i need to know if i have a right to be jealous, or upset, or if i am just totally blinded by my intense hatred for her (we do NOT get along; i just avoid her whenever possible). everybody and their brother knows he wants to bone her, too, even though he adamantly denies it and she has a boyfriend (who is now avoiding my bf because even HE knows).

anyway i am just pretty pissed about the whole thing. do i have a right to be?
maybe it is nothing and my hatred for her is clouding the whole thing. my bf is one of the only people in our group of friends who will even still speak to her due to some things she did last winter to generally piss everyone off. he is apparently the only one who has missed her since she left because he is the only one who has talked to her.

UGH I AM SO UPSET!!

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i think you have every right to be upset with him. thats a blatant disreguard for your feelings there. it sounds like he takes you pretty forgranted.

hell yes! i'd be fucking pissed off too.
beat his ass down

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Everyone has a right to be jelous, and it wouldn't hurt to tell your boyfriend that you are. But be wary not to sound accusatory. Rather, concentrate on yourself, how you personally feel and how the situation affects you. Feeling is one thing, and action is another. Though it may not be your intention, relate it in terms of not letting your own feelings make your boyfriend feel restricted ("I don't want to make you feel resricted but something's been bothering me..."). He'll cop on.