now granted my man doesn't get together with his pals but like once every 3 weeks, BUT when he does it turns into a 24 hour thing. I think its ridiculous and it drives me insane wondering what they are really up to. I'm hoping its like he says, which is have some drinks, etc and pass out at someone's house. He doesn't do it often but when he does (like today) I flip with worry. Do your guys do this? I don't want to confront him and look like a maniac, but I hate it. Any advice?

what do you think he's doing?
if its anything like my man's "lads night out" they all get wankered, go to shite clubs where they get chatted up by women twice their age and then fall asleep playing on pro evo. if its a REALLY GOOD lads night out someone will shit themselves after a bad curry on the way home.
honestly, don't worry about it. i doubt you're missing out on much. and i'm sure i'd make it a big one if i only saw my mates once every 3 weeks, that must be pretty hard for him.

it is like he says.
its not so much that he's going out.....it goes deeper, its a trust issue.
Maybe thats something you could work on rather than getting him to stop going. I assume you're only worried that he's flirting with other women, if he's the flirty type and that's something you can't compromise on maybe ye shouldn't be together??
Otherwise Im sure there's nothing to be worried about.
Boys like to go to a mates houses, play video games and tell fart jokes/toilet humour without having to roar over disco music

yeah all the boys i hang around with seem to do what bronzemedal pretty much said. except instead of video games, get home after going to horrific pubs or shitty clubs (which they were probably doing awful dancing in, scaring away any possible intrested woman) drink horrible cheap wine, get stoned and watch die hard on repeat

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no no never say maybe to smack bunny baby again.

this weekend my boyfriend said he was going to make it a special one for us. instead he ended up comming home pissed as a fart on fri night at 2.30am, and last night he didnt even make it to my house.

its a boys thing, bleh.

If its not everday/weekend why worry? Are you that insecure? I really hate girls that do this, its just annoying to have to listen to.

no my bf does not do this. I'm not saying that's a good or a bad thing, I'm just answering the question.
His friends aren't big drinkers. Neither is he really. They mostly play video games.
There's no reason he couldn't be off picking up chicks when he's not drunk instead of playing video games as he tells me he does but I trust him.

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I'd love it if my boyfriend did this. Get him out of my hair for a day
But seriously,.... it sounds like you don't trust him. If you trusted him, it wouldn't matter what he was doing - would it? You could just have yourself your own girls night or a bubble bath & ice cream & a good book/film & have some you time.

ditto

you're so so right xx

I could do without the shite clubs, old women, bad curry and trouser shitting, but getting wankered and going back to play pro evo is pretty much what I do every weekend. So, yeah, you've nowt to worry about because ultimately most lads are a bit boring.

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