Right now I am absolutely stuck on this guy that I don't know very well. We just graduated, so it's likely that I'll never see him again, but I still think of him and talk of him allllll the time. I'd say the majority of my day is spent dreaming about him and thinking about him. My best friend says that the way I talk about this guy is the way people talk when they're in love, but I barely know him, so I certainly can't be in love.

The thing is, this has happened once before with another, much older man. I become fixated on one person, obsessed with them. And then I can't think of anyone else and I am attached to the guy. It's unhealthy and embarrasing and disgusting and I don't know why I do it, but I do, and it happens almost without me even realizing it and before I know it, I'm hooked on a guy and I feel like my heart gets crushed because I'm not with them.

Is this normal? Does this happen to anyone else? I'd appreciate any insight anyone could give, any psych majors here?

I think you're in love with the person that you spend hours every day idealising in your head.

I recommend kicking yourself in the ass whenever you notice yourself doing this, as it's a bad habit to form. Use your imagination for powers of good, not evil.

I think you're in love with an image you've created in your head. You can't be in love with someone you don't know and haven't spent time with. Perhaps you can have a crush.

I'm in love with this.
I wish i had a sig to put this in.
I have to put it somewhere, it may end up in my MSN name.

I think you need to bring your feelings into the reality. Start liking guys who like you back. Trust me, I used to waste my time on unavailable men, even when I was a kid. But the moment that I met someone who actually felt the same way about me, it was insanely beautiful. So in other words, quit dreaming and start doing. Isn't there a Dusty Springfield song about this kind of thing? Wishin, and hopin and dreamin and prayin..