giving "the talk" to your 16 yr old sister (tips? advice?)
my extremely verbally combative and defensive 16 year old sister... is having sex.
now. last night at 1am, she had problems peeing.. blah blah blah, clearly it was a UTI. i took her to the ER, it got dealt with. but along the way i told her she has to pee before and after sex with her boyfriend, or she's just gonna get more UTIs. and after a couple attempts at arguing.. she finally whispered "well.. i didnt know that..." and it was just understood that she's sleeping with him.
now, i really dont live in this house ever. but am just crashing here between apartments. she and i dont necessarily get along that well.. but our parents are really ****ty. my mother has since figured out (via webMD) that UTIs are usually caused from sex.. andddd last month she had a bladder infection which she refused to talk to anyone about.
anyhow. my mother wants to sit down with sister, her boyfriend, and my father to like.. lay it on the line and talk about using condoms and such.
this is only going to make my sister more detached, irate, embarrassed, and defensive.
sooo.. i'm going to try to take her out to dinner tonight and talk it out.
my sister is like borderline retarded in many ways. she didn't know what a UTI was.. or how to book her own medical appointments, or how to find directions to walgreens -- these things.
so... i figure, for her own best interest.. i should talk it out with her tonight.
but.. her boyfriend is a manipulative player and a total dickface. i'm sure he's cheating on her.. and i'm sure he doesnt use a condom.
wtf do i say to my 16 year old sister who thinks she knows everything, but really knows nothing?
i am so vain. and yet, so masochistic. how can the two coexist?