when do you give up?

Dithyrambic · #1 05-13-2007, 08:15 PM

if you were really good friends with someone, and then they suddenly stop hanging out with you, should you keep calling them?
if every time you make plans (not concrete, just like "lets hang out sunday"), they call and cancel, or say they are busy, should you stop calling them?

i mean if they claim they really are just busy, and not blowing you off, when should you just give up?? when can you decide they really are blowing you off and not legitimately busy or tired like they say?

at what point do you go from being a friend who wants to hang out , to a stalker? this is so depressing.

localgod · #2 05-13-2007, 09:49 PM

i sorta know where youre coming from, i havent seen my friend since before march break and i try to make plans but shes always with ehr bf.
sometimes im like **** that, she can contact me if she wants, but now im like, now she is my best friend in the entire world, and i want to hang out with her.
if youre being a stalker he/she will let you know, then you can stop calling

clinquant · #3 05-14-2007, 05:40 AM

i don't know... maybe they're actually really busy. i mean, if they just didn't wanna hang with you at all anymore, they probably wouldn't bother making plans at all... probably wouldn't bother calling to cancel or whatever. you should just tell them that since they're obviously so busy, how about they let you know next time they're free to hang out. and then just give it a while, leave it up to them. that's what i would do.

rosieholic · #4 05-14-2007, 05:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Dithyrambic

if you were really good friends with someone, and then they suddenly stop hanging out with you, should you keep calling them?
if every time you make plans (not concrete, just like "lets hang out sunday"), they call and cancel, or say they are busy, should you stop calling them?

i mean if they claim they really are just busy, and not blowing you off, when should you just give up?? when can you decide they really are blowing you off and not legitimately busy or tired like they say?

at what point do you go from being a friend who wants to hang out , to a stalker? this is so depressing.

i've got the same problem, but i managed to get her to come over on firday night and we still get along really well and she legitimately has been busy. but it's still just not quite as good anymore. lately ive been asking her when she'll be free and setting concrete dates, that kind of works. most of the time.

KillTheLastRomantic · #5 05-14-2007, 06:09 AM

i kind of don't really put up with that. if they ditch me for their bf, it offends me and after they make excuses and stuff i dont bother.
if they don't have a partner or watever and still always cancelling then at least you know you made the effort and it cant be negative on your part. always make sure you have the last effort. then you know if they REALLY want to hang out with you or not i guess