i never write on kr about man drama, as i feel it's not kr's business. but i can't TELL anyone about this, as this person is a co-worker, and none of my irl friends know him, and all my work friend's can't know anything is up.

long long story short. i can't figure out wtf this man wants with me?

why me? i mean, he's 6 years older than me, graduated from an ivy league college with two degrees, is totally lovely looking, is fucking smart (much smarter than i, the man listens to godforsaken NPR)... BUT he's also a token 'nice guy' -- and personally, i've always gone for the bad boys (and really, really bad ones at that).

anyhow.. tonight he totally sprung alot of crap on me (he'd like a relationship.. i didnt really see this coming), quickly, and i reacted really awkwardly and pretty much skirted the whole thing. and i feel awful about that. i HATE hurting nice guys.

and in all honesty, all our staff are incredibly good looking. sortof like hippie models.. and i am most certainly not one of them. i'd say i'm average looking at best. soo... out of all the single chicks at work what the fuck is he doing going after me? i'm not hot, much younger than he, not a 'nice girl', and...

what the fuck is he doing?
and why do men have to make everything so fucking awkward.

now i don't want to go to work tomorrow... because it's going to be so.. weird.

he sortof laid everything on the line (which i didn't see coming), and wanted an answer. and i totally avoided that.. and i know it's going to come up.. how can it not?

shit. ass. crap. bitch. fuck.



what do i do???

the only real person i confided all this into has mixed opinions about the whole thing. but she's a lesbian.. so her opinion doesnt totally count.

what ever happened to the teacher?

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ohhh mark. he's a professor, not a teacher.

and, he has a wife.

i turned down the TA job, and haven't responded since the awkward (but not as awkward as this!!) easter incident and emails. i'm sure he's either over it, or on the tail of some other student of his.

sex

no. professor wanted in the pants.

this one wants a solid relationship.

This is the part that gave it away.

no. i really dont think so.
i mean, really really dont think so.

he's one of those few men who aren't into causual sex (and lets be honest, neither am i.. but i'm always sortof suspicious of men who're the same). and maybe if i was some super hot bombshell, i'd understand you're argument. but i'm not.

futhermore, wtf is he bothering to ask about starting a relationship if he just wants to fuck? he knows staff sexin' is allowed, but no staff relationships. we could both get fired. he knows this. why risk it just for sex once?

he probably posts on the kr.

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except i hate you.

do you like him back? bc i can't tell.

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and if its yes, then like hello, jump him. if its no, then just get a new hippy job.

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except i hate you.

i dunno it's a bit shitty when a friend is suddenly like BE MY GURLFRIEND


i think you should tell him you don't know if you want a relationship yet, this is very sudden but you'd like to go out a few times and stuff and see what happens

basically my last boyfreind was hotter than me, and just generally bettr, he was way out of my league and the whole reltaionship was a fluke lol. but if he doesn't think that, don't tell him.

just go with it, if he's a nice guy.. lifes too short to be single if you can avoid it

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you'll go to hell for what your dirty mind is thinking

i second this motion

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maybe you are hot? did you ever post a pic here?

omg stfu you slut.

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except i hate you.

yeah super slut like i asked for nekkid pics

wtf? why does her opinion not totally count because she's a lesbian?
am i the only one this does not make sense to?

Go for the golden line.......

But it might ruin our friendship? Cause if it doesnt work out things wont be like the way it was before...

1. i dont know if i like him back. see.. i pretty much did. and i know this, because once i wrote (about him): "and YOU -- are so gorgeous, and i don't think you know it. i go in that room as often as i can to hang around hoping you'll talk to me. i like you, because if you were here right now, you'd be just as perplexed with this fight outside as i am... oh god, it was funny. you'd have laughed. i love your laugh. infact, i think i like everything about you. but i dont know if you like me..." BUT now that he's all upfront and not sneaky.. i sortof lost some interest (okay.. alot of interest).

2. trust me. i'm not hot.

3. lesbian friend is sortof unreliable, as she knows him and knows me. she thinks he's smart, funny, attractive etc. BUT that he's a mamma's boy (which i think he is too), and might be a nearly 30 year old virgin (now... i can't see how that'd be possible, but i'd also not discount it). i'm also pretty sure he doesnt drink, or do the drugs. (and i do)


point is. i think if he ever really got to know me (the way boyfriends often do), he'd be disappointed (because.. i've done some really shitty things in the past, i have a potty mouth, i have controversial political opinions, i'm catholic: and he thinks religion is a lie, i tell inappropriate jokes, and have a rather inappropriate and dark sense of humor... and he doesnt. he SO doesnt.


AND. i dont.. spark with him. now, there have only been a handful of men i've ever really sparked with... and he's not one of them. but i like him.. i just don't..

it's like, having a insatiable craving for sugar, but you realize there's no sugar in your house.. only splenda (crappiest metaphor ever). and the splenda will suffice, but it wont be as good as the sugar would have been. you know?

4. he doesnt post on the kr. or atleast, i assume he doesnt. if he did.. i'd cringe and die inside. from embarrassment.


i dont know.. i love the badboy smoker, drinker, drug-user, rock-n-roller types. ahhh i swoon so hard for them. sooo hard. especially the one's who're really good on the inside, and you create that sortof relationship where he's sortof a badass infront of everyone else, but when it's just he and i he's a different person. you know those types? THAT is my type. those are the sort that i spark with (or for). and the boy that THIS thread is about.. is COMPLETELY and ABSOLUTELY NOT a bad boy. but a totally token 'nice guy'.


shit. i havent been this confused about a man since i was like... 15?

a huge part of me thinks i somehow misinterpreted everything that was said between us.. and that he's not looking for a relationship at all, and that i made it up? (i think this is just my personal paranoia)

SHIT. i want a bad boy with a heart of gold (or atleast partially guilded, you know).. and he's a mister nice guy type. but.. i've only ever dated bad boys, never good guys. maybe it's time for a change?

you sure you don't like him back?