i think i had my first one night stand the other day. i got pretty drunk at some club and met this guy who i thought was really nice and agreed to go home with him. so we ended up having sex and afterwards he was really nice. like made me a cup of tea, looked after me when i was sick in the morning (gross i know) and even paid for my taxi home. and he was still quite affectionate in the morning and as i was leaving he said he'd text me. that was wednesday/thursday and i've still not heard anything (and i don't have his number...) do you think i was being stupidly naive to think something more would come of this?

pretty much, yes

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one night stands couldnt be just that if there was a second round.....
Hoped you learned a lesson, dont expect more, well, 99% of the time....

i guess i've still got a lot to learn this is the worst feeling ever.

plenty of girls have been here.
im going to try and put this delicately because being in this position actually really hurts a lot.
any guy that cuts to the chase 99% of the time is just after sex. they give the whole, i will call you speach to get you out of their hair. when i was younger i used to let guys do this to me. and i ALWAYS believed something would come of it. i was young and naive and didnt understand that just because a guy does something that seems like genuine affection does not mean its genuine. its sort of that whole you gave me what i wanted and now i'll give you what you want (but only for a hot minute) and then we can go on our merry seperate way. if he had been interested chances are he would have called or texted you by now.
i really have a feeling that he will end up texting you eventually but it will more than likely just be a booty call. guys of that nature usually all work the same way. DO NOT do not fall for it. all you will be doing is hurting yourself more by getting your hopes up all over again.
men are just jerks sometimes. this isnt right that he did this to you but you also are responsible for not letting guys do something like this to you. so just dont. you'll save yourself a lot of grief in the end.
i hope you get to feeling better and dont think that it was something you did. guys like that are just assholes who usually target girls who are in a moment of vulnerability. just try to make better judgement calls next time ok?

Yes, probably just a one night stand.
But he said he'd text.
Don't give up on him yet.
Sometimes we give guys less credit than they're worth.
You never know he might text. He MIGHT just be nervous.
And IF he calls, or IF he texts.. don't bombard him with questions like "what took you so long to respond?" and don't assume because he took his time he doesn't like you.
You never know...
For future though, it is best to avoid one-night-stands to avoid feeling the way you do now. Try to do the whole courting thing... we all know the "three date rule" (And that's just for kissing)

I think if you're going to go home with a guy you just met you need to know it probably won't turn into the romance of the century.

I'm not saying one night stands don't turn into more, just that you need to prepared for the...............nothing.

If you're getting what you want from it, then great. Do what (and who) you want. But if it leaves you feeling shit then maybe you're not cut out for the casual sex lifestyle.

this is silly. i find it hard to believe a guy who would coerse a girl into sleeping with him on the first night they met would be nervous about calling the girl afterwards. he's probably just a dick in shining armour.

seriously this post is so offensive


it's attitudes like this that give girls a reputation of being whiny pathetic overdramatic bitches
and that allow men to behave like cunts.

if you sleep with someone the first night you meet them, chances are
1. he doesn't love you/have a crush
2. you're not going to hear from him again.
3. he's probab;y forgotten your name


sorry about that but that's how it is. and if you can't handle that then perhaps you shouldn't be having casual sex with strangers.

it's the reason i don't.

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only once have i ever had a one night stand that turned into something.
but that was a unique situation.
that rarely ever happens so i feel safe in saying you need to just forget about him and move on.

don't expect him to call because he's not going to. and even if he does don't answer because all he'll be expecting is sex.

I have had lots of 'one night stands' that I have ended up seeing again and again for months and even years. They've never turned into anything more than a sexual relationship or a friendship though.

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this is the reason why men are garbage.

And I'm including gay men with that.

Of course there are always exceptions but most women are not prowling blood sucking vampires looking for victims to trick with their fake chivalry.

A friend of mine was telling me yesterday how she had been seing this french guy the past week and yesterday, a day before he left to europe, he got all angry and yelling at her because she wouldn't sleep with him. I mean the nerve!

and it happens in the gay world too, I made a profile on mygaydar.com and in less than a week I got two messages, one guy I had a phone sex one night stand and when he realized I was looking for something serious he never talked to me again, and this other guy never talked to me again after I said i wasn't masculine.

So I modified my profile and I said, "I'm not interested in one night stands, I'm looking for a guy who has a relantionship in mind like me" and guess what??? NO ONE has messaged me in weeks.

Bottom line don't give away your coochie, it's not worth it.

i doubt he tricked her into bed, she seems like she was willing?

one night stands happen all the time and sometimes sex is all you want. there's nothing dirty or wrong about sex, even if it's with strangers.


the original poster's mistkae was hoping something more would come out of what was clearly just a one night stand.

he was polite to her, which is how you behave when you have a guest in your house, but that doesn't mean he has to marry her now


we're all responsible for our own choices

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Naive, maybe, but not stupid.
Don't feel bad about it, lovey, these things happen to everyone.
God, I woke up in a hostel in Scotland once to find I'd had sex with between one and three men in a park and one in front of the entire (shared) dorm of the hostel, with no memory! Talk about shame.
I told my Mum and she said her and my NAN have both done similar things.
Don't worry.

Okay, three dates for kissing is stupid, ignore that.

And, just to warn you, I've tried the three date rule for sex and still ended up being fucked around. Don't ever expect anything. Honestly, just have fun and don't worry about being single or anything. Sleep with someone if you WANT to and if it feels okay (and be safe of course), but don't feel bad and if you want an actual relationship, be 100% sure they're in the same place before you have sex with them.

lol exactly

slowdance, not exactly the kind of things you should admit. ever.

lol, we're garbage because when we decide to have a one night stand and the girl goes for it, we have to assume that deep down each and every single chick is going to want more from it?
The girls make their beds. If they wanted more, all they'd need to do is tell the dude and they'd either agree on it, which would show you they are genuine, or they'd immediatly decide she isnt worth the hassle, even for some pussy. The guy is usually always very obviously upfront with their intentions. But we're labelled users and abusers mainly due to the girls not knowing wtf they want. Or they know, but they shyly steer away from being direct and hope that the guy shows a noble romantic side and through the beauty of their fuck session, he'll see in her the girl of his dreams.

well most women are not man whores like most men.

Men and women are different. Most women don't just have sex, their emotions are involved. Men are different, they are beasts, most of them can totally have sex without any emotion like animals in the jungle do.

I'm not saying there aren't slutty women, but women generally look for something different even if it's a one night stand they are going to get emotionally involved. Men can even get married and they will still cheat on the wife and look for one night stands like the domesticated beasts that they are.

Don't try to excuse your bestiality on how emotional women are. It makes you look bad instead of them.

Women cheat all the time as well.

It doesnt make us look bad at all..it makes women who ke