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Originally Posted by JacketOff i think i had my first one night stand the other day. i got pretty drunk at some club and met this guy who i thought was really nice and agreed to go home with him. so we ended up having sex and afterwards he was really nice. like made me a cup of tea, looked after me when i was sick in the morning  (gross i know) and even paid for my taxi home. and he was still quite affectionate in the morning and as i was leaving he said he'd text me. that was wednesday/thursday and i've still not heard anything (and i don't have his number...) do you think i was being stupidly naive to think something more would come of this? |
plenty of girls have been here.
im going to try and put this delicately because being in this position actually really hurts a lot.
any guy that cuts to the chase 99% of the time is just after sex. they give the whole, i will call you speach to get you out of their hair. when i was younger i used to let guys do this to me. and i ALWAYS believed something would come of it. i was young and naive and didnt understand that just because a guy does something that seems like genuine affection does not mean its genuine. its sort of that whole you gave me what i wanted and now i'll give you what you want (but only for a hot minute) and then we can go on our merry seperate way. if he had been interested chances are he would have called or texted you by now.
i really have a feeling that he will end up texting you eventually but it will more than likely just be a booty call. guys of that nature usually all work the same way. DO NOT do not fall for it. all you will be doing is hurting yourself more by getting your hopes up all over again.
men are just jerks sometimes. this isnt right that he did this to you but you also are responsible for not letting guys do something like this to you. so just dont. you'll save yourself a lot of grief in the end.
i hope you get to feeling better and dont think that it was something you did. guys like that are just assholes who usually target girls who are in a moment of vulnerability. just try to make better judgement calls next time ok?