What makes you jealous? How do you feel about being jealous? Do you hide it? How do you deal with it?

Is your partner jealous?

...and tell me all the stupid little things you are/have been jealous about.

I'm very very jealous.
Of like everything.
I suprised myself when I didn't spack when i had this open relationship thing.
IT WAS AWFUL THOUGH.
I don't hide it. Well. I just don't say anything most of the time.

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Diving for pearls.

I want a lolly.

my boy goes out every monday and thursday with his best friend.
i get jealous over that.

because i'm NEVER invited because his best friend hates me, and also because he never makes me his first priority. like we don't have a certain night that we go out, or a special bar that we go to like they do. and he doesn't even seem to care that his best friend hates me for a stupid reason.
and also because if something were happening on one of those days that i wanted to do with him, i can forget it. NOT HAPPENING.

I am never jealous unless there is a damn good reason to be jealous.

I envy you.

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Diving for pearls.

I want a lolly.

Its all just a matter of realising that no matter if your a jealous person or not, if someone is going to cheat on you, THEY WILL. If someone is going to leave you THEY WILL.
Being a jealous person probably just makes them do it sooner.

Its just all a matter of trust, if you don't trust someone its never going to work.

but what if it's like my situation where it's not about trust, it's about prioritizing?

i mean i totally agree with what you're saying about cheating and stuff. but there's other stuff you can get jealous over.

sooo true.
Wise lady

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Diving for pearls.

I want a lolly.

I don't get jealous. I can't control every aspect of someone's life, and I don't ever want to give up parts of my own so I just accept they will do things without me and expect to be given my space when I want it.

jealousy is not so sexy
unless you both get equally as jealous as each other over the same things..
but those relationships suck,
so no. jealousy is rubbish
what caral ann said

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no no never say maybe to smack bunny baby again.

we are both kind of jealous but, not to the point of unhealthy. I've had bad bad issues with this in the past.
It's really hard to admit but, If you are in a committed relationship, You have to KNOW that they want only you. You have to know this. Easier said than done, I know..

when ever I start feeling this way, I take a deep breath and revalute my feelings and usually I'm making a big deal over nothing.

good luck

i get jealous over my boyfriend's ex.

it's not a trust issue AT ALL, i have never thought he is going to cheat on me with her or go back to her or ANYTHING like that.
it's a long story, dating back years and years to when the boy and i were together as teenagers, and then we broke up and he went out with her. so to me her existence represents the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with (omg emo-ness ) and i HATE thinking about any time they spent together.

i waste way too much energy obsessing about it.

I think that you are expecting to much to be honest with you.
I mean he spends two nights a week with his best friend....is that really so bad?
Its his best friend!!

I mean obviously I don't know the full story, maybe you DO have reason to be jealous, I am just going with what I have.

I don't get jealous at all. Ever. I find it irrational...but that's probably because I'm exceptionally happy with myself & my life. I have empathy for people who get jealous though, it can't be easy. I just choose not to be.

oh, me too.


so, i get jealous about stupid little things, but my guy does more. a lot more.
we are getting along with this, it's ok now, dont know in the future.. but we love each other more than words can say and i hope it doesn't end up out of jealousy.

first of all, i envy you for not being jealous ever. i find it irrational too, though i feel jealous about a million things. i mean, the guy is with YOU, you trust him, it should be ok, right? but no no. we can't control our feelings.

so this "I just choose not to be" talk is bullshit. you may not feel jealous at all, but not because you chose. if i could, i'd choose not to be jealous too.

i've never thought of it like this.

the hard thing it's to put in practice.

I'm jealous of everything. I need to work on that.

I'm very rarely jealous.

no, you're right - it's not so bad that he spends two nights a week with his friend. it's the fact that he gives his friend so much more than he gives me. that's what upsets me.

i guess if i was getting everything i wanted/expected from him in the first place it wouldn't be an issue. but i don't. so it is. if that makes sense (i've been having some wine so...)